No worries man.

If you're realistically considering divorce. Talk to a divorce lawyer.

You made 250k/yr before, and you're unemployed now due to laid off.

He/she might even recommend to take a tame job and drop the idea of a high level role for while. Get through the divorce process.

Might give less of an argument on her side.

Anyways, if you're going the divorce route, every decision should be made by lawyers advice.

Otherwise making it work.... 100% she needs to step up and make you feel like you're not an opening to a lifestyle she wants. She needs to be humbled and work to contribute. Make you feel like an actual person and not a piggy bank.