ThrowRA_1111111111 OP t1_j6p7pte wrote on January 31, 2023 at 10:36 PM

Reply to comment by MckittenMan in My wife (33F) lied to my (34M) ex coworker about "financial stress" in our household. Divorce? by ThrowRA_1111111111

at the end of the day who WANTS to work? I get it but we have to and when we first got married I was making $75k a year (base salary) and she's seen me grow to $250k (base) so I know she didn't get into the relationship for the money but one of her friends once said that I had "financial potential" which is now very very loud playing in my head.

I was so insulted from my coworker comment. I am digging into savings to make sure she isn't financially stressed, didn't ask her to contribute $1 more than she did before. So wtf? I got real mad about that.

yikes I didn't even think of the whole lawyer BS.... she has a lot in investments (stock market) some money she got from her mom. When we met her mom used to pay for her entire rent so she def has other ways to support herself than just me working.

thanks for getting back to me, I appreciate it.

MckittenMan t1_j6pc4ng wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:05 PM

No worries man.

If you're realistically considering divorce. Talk to a divorce lawyer.

You made 250k/yr before, and you're unemployed now due to laid off.

He/she might even recommend to take a tame job and drop the idea of a high level role for while. Get through the divorce process.

Might give less of an argument on her side.

Anyways, if you're going the divorce route, every decision should be made by lawyers advice.

Otherwise making it work.... 100% she needs to step up and make you feel like you're not an opening to a lifestyle she wants. She needs to be humbled and work to contribute. Make you feel like an actual person and not a piggy bank.