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There are so many fallacies here, but did he actually get covid? Was he vaccinated? Is he overweight?

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If he was sick and didnt test himself then you should have removed yourself from contact with him. If you are saying you wouldnt have done that anyway, whats your point?

He never tested. But I have the same symptoms he did. We’re vaxxed. No he’s not overweight.

We live in a one bedroom apartment? There’s not much isolation we can do.

So what is the issue? Covid is fairly easy to beat. Idk why he is foolish paranoid.

Right and you said even if he had tested and was positive you would have done the exact same thing. So, I am confused as to what difference it made I'd he tested or not

That’s the point of the post. When he’s sick, there’s no such thing as isolation, but as soon as I get sick, isolation exists.

He’s doing a poor job of doing that since he’s living with you

The problem is that when he’s sick, isolation doesn’t exist. As soon as I catch it, it’s a 180. I shouldn’t be touching everything, I should sanitize, we shouldn’t be in close contact. The hypocrisy is what I was pointing out.

Eh, its very common to get nasty after effects or even ‘long covid’, even if youre totally healthy before hand and had a mild case. Stuff like that can be a roulette, so i get his anxiety- but.

The fact that he was sick first, and is now doing this other side of the bed thing… you guys should just isolate from each other as best you can until you start testing negative, and make sure hes testing too in case he catches it. Wiping down surfaces and stuff is great, but if youre still interacting/sleeping together/ etc hes not actually reducing the risk, hes just making you feel bad. Different bedrooms (or someone sleeps on the couch) until youre better is a more reasonable solution. He could also be concerned about having to take time off work and stuff.

Ok got it

Well, since he was just positive he should know that he is ok for a while

Does he act like a hypocrite in other areas as well?

You do know that COVID tests are free, right? And that you both exhibit high risk for spreading COVID through your behavior, right? You're upset that you bf is wiping down surfaces yet you went to work, he is doordashing and going grocery shopping. Sheesh. That behavior is what is actually kinda shitty

So the policy at my work is until you test positive you can still go to work. Even if you’re living with someone who has covid. I always wear a mask though. That’s the other part that gets me. Is that knowing that my boyfriend got me sick, 1) he still doesn’t test himself and 2) he’s still going out. When I know dang well if someone was out with covid he’d throw a fit.