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More-Grocery-1858 t1_jdhm564 wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in Individuals with secure emotional attachment are more likely to forgive and to be forgiven, study finds by chrisdh79

The trouble is if you don't have at least one secure relationship, resentment's the only thing left.

I've been there. I didn't have a secure relationship until my late 30s and it is not fun.

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shawn_overlord t1_jdhq5lu wrote

you're giving me a terrifying look into my future and i dont like it

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Ewoksintheoutfield t1_jdihfs5 wrote

You can overcome bad relationships and still be a secure and loving person.

If you don’t have past trauma, you will take a few bumps and bruises but keep rolling. And there is always therapy and meds for those that do.

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shawn_overlord t1_jdijks3 wrote

my point is im afraid of being lonely until my late 30s despite trying

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DTFH_ t1_jdkiiw9 wrote

That's fine because you can practice or learn how to have a healthy/ier relationship with yourself in the mean time! If your internal monologue is a big ole meany, being aware of it can help shift that relationship.

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shawn_overlord t1_jdkki39 wrote

no im tired of being alone

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UnionOfSexWorkers t1_jdll84j wrote

same. I would go as far as to say that Maslow's hierarchy is wrong. Humans NEED genuine and gainful and loving interaction with at least one other human or with some group of humans JUST as we need food and water.

Has anyone else noticed the correlation that exists between heightened suicide rate, low population density, and lack of mental health care funding?

...something funky going on there I'll tell you what!...

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