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AllanfromWales1 t1_iwbl7xg wrote

I'm surprised there was only a moderate correlation. I would expect something like that when comparing 'spends much time alone' and depression, but actual loneliness I would expect to see strongly correlated with depression.

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AtomicPickles92 t1_iwciyc2 wrote

I am wondering how they defined loneliness. I have had depression for a long time. I also struggle with loneliness. The real issue is this “loneliness” is not as simple as “I wish I wasn’t alone” and this feeling persists whether a person is around or even talking to me.

The result is, in the moment, I can feel connected, but as soon as direct interaction ends, I am directly back to being just as lonely. So looking back, it makes me feel like I was really alone for a long time.

There is something to be said about getting what you need out of an interaction NOW to avoid being lonely LATER

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Ruski_FL t1_iwdd8hk wrote

I feel the same. It doesn’t matter how many people I know or talk to. I feel always alone. It’s depressing.

Sometimes I find a romantic partner and feel like we know each other but it goes away.

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AtomicPickles92 t1_iwdezhv wrote

I feel the same about a romantic partner.

I think the problem is we aren’t getting the chemicals we need and should be getting from these interactions.

I think we are defecient in something and it cause primary and secondary issues.

Primary: A feeling of loneliness

Secondary: An inability to sate my social appetite

I’m talking out of my ass though. I think legitimately that therapy and mental health treatment is really the only way to address it properly at this time in our life.

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Ruski_FL t1_iwdh3c9 wrote

Yeah for sure.

Some people around me mentioned I might have adhd. I just gotta find a good mental health to profesional.

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PrezMoocow t1_iwd184q wrote

One interesting thing to note: Loneliness isn't necessarily "spending much time alone". Sometimes it manifests as constantly hanging out with lots of people so that you're never alone. Or feeling alone when surrounded by others.

Conversely, some people who spend lots of time alone aren't lonely at all, and perfectly content with that level of interaction.

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Maleficent_Low64 t1_iwcjucd wrote

> I would expect something like that when comparing 'spends much time alone' and depression

Why? Clearly there are many people who usually prefer to be alone.

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brokenwound t1_iwe8rg0 wrote

There were days growing up I didn't say a word or interact with another person beyond doing what I was told to do. I can say that I was definitely depressed and lonely no matter what my parents chose to think.

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