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chevymonza t1_j1gkhtn wrote

Reply to comment by thebestoflimes in Narcissistic tendencies moderate the association between testosterone levels and generosity in men by chrisdh79

The narcissist I used to have in my life was an aggressive gift-giver. I can look around this room and see a bunch of things they bought, but it was obnoxious- essentially taking over all the decor after a while bit by bit.

But of course you can't complain about "generous" gift-givers.

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SoFetchBetch t1_j1gmat3 wrote

Hmm… this is interesting to me. My mom is an aggressive gift giver but it’s because she’s a hoarder and when she goes hunting for new things at the thrift store or flea markets/yard sales she always finds stuff she wants to give me. It’s really frustrating tbh because I don’t want any more stuff but if I tell her that she gets sad. Difficult thing to manage.

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CyborgElephant t1_j1gsnpe wrote

Re-donate it, don’t feel obligated to keep things you have no need or want for.

From someone who’s parent is an extreme hoarder, it’s very easy to get roped into their madness. Learn to let go and don’t be afraid to offend, their pain is not your pain.

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AnneNonnyMouse t1_j1gtqhd wrote

Oof... this brought up a lot of memories about, my parents, my ex and his family. To this day I hate receiving gifts.

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chevymonza t1_j1kay05 wrote

Isn't it wacky?! I'm looking at a small pile of gifts from relatives in the corner, waiting for tomorrow. Sooo much STUFF in this house, I can't keep up- MIL is constantly offloading stuff she no longer wants on us, plus my mother's stuff after she went to a nursing home, cousins' stuff in the attic, it gets suffocating.

I go to thrift stores to drop stuff off at least every month, and we still have so much.

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