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macbeth1608 t1_is0nzoa wrote

read that it was a car vs pedestrian accident

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ryanknut t1_is0rz8q wrote

sometimes I have to remind myself that this is in fact NOT Grand Theft Auto and I shouldn’t run over pedestrians

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ru-ck-us-89 t1_is34z7c wrote

yea springfield will do that to you

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synystar t1_is45g51 wrote

I have lived in this city for 40+ years and I can honestly say that it has become part of the culture. I drive a company vehicle and I won't go at a green light even if people are honking at me. Yesterday my light turned green and a lady looked like she was stopping but then just decided "meh, fuck it" and went on through. I literally watched her decision making process happen after my light was already green. I often see 2 or 3 cars all just say "meh".

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robzilla71173 t1_is5q84w wrote

You do realize people behind you become more likely to run the red light when you've sat there for a while holding them up at the green, right?

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jaejmd12 t1_is1yshw wrote

People need to stop equating jokes to personal attacks. That dude who posted the comment obviously didn’t have you in mind. I’m sure he’d be sorry that something like that happened to you as well. That doesn’t make him an asshole, ACTUALLY it makes YOU the asshole for assuming random internet strangers know the details of your life before they post a JOKE. He didn’t wake up thinking “Gee golly! I better not joke around today on the internet about bikers getting hit by careless drivers and compare it to my favorite video game in case ‘shizkc’ on Reddit is online today because his friend passed away two years ago from something similar” get a grip dude. Jokes are jokes and travesties are travesties; stop trying to make them one in the same.

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Ogtrot t1_is232vs wrote

100% agree. Dark comedy is a proven healing tool. Sometimes referred to as trauma bonding. Comedy is going to die if everyone keeps "Will Smithing" every joke that could be interpreted as offensive through the scope of one individual with unique trauma.

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KimGardnersbossSoros t1_is2k0w3 wrote

Please share with us and the entire Reddit community the randomized, double-blind peer-reviewed journal article/study you are citing which shows that dark comedy is a proven healing tool. I doubt you can do this because it’s completely made up. Quick suggestion… If you can’t back up a stupid comment then maybe you shouldn’t post it.

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Ogtrot t1_is3lzvu wrote

I can, but I can also tell you that it has helped me personally as well as many of my friends. Weve all had some serious trauma and discuss this topic constantly. As far as data, this is where you can purchase the entire paper posted by Andrea Samson, postdoc for Stanford, circa 2011. https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/figure/10.1080/02699931.2011.585069?scroll=top&needAccess=true However, should your journey for statics not be significant enough to drop that amount of money, here is an article posted by Stanford itself, discussing it in abstract: https://news.stanford.edu/news/2011/august/humor-coping-horror-080111.html It heals, man. It heals for reals. I hope you find a way to heal too.

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Ogtrot t1_is5q73q wrote

No reply? I gave you what you wanted @KimGardnersbossSoros

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KimGardnersbossSoros t1_is6js1b wrote

I actually posted a very long reply. Maybe you need to scroll to find it. But I will summarize it here. The paper you cited hardly correlates to the discussion at hand. Showing negative images and then measuring people‘s response based on jokes hardly corresponds to making poor tasting jokes in the face of a live tragedy. Showing still images without context to people and then measuring their response is hardly a way to bolster your argument that sick jokes help people heal.

If you actually believe what you say then one can deduce that you think it would be good to call the families of the Sandy Hook victims and tell them off-color jokes. then, when you’re criticized you can explain that you were only telling them those awful jokes in an attempt to help them heal. After all…that would be the logical conclusion to your theory.

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KimGardnersbossSoros t1_is2jo09 wrote

So….if I understand you….someone makes a completely tasteless joke about a tragedy and it is viewed as offensive by people who have been on the receiving end of a tragedy. But by calling that out the people who are suffering from the tragic event are the assholes? OK got it thank you.

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jaejmd12 t1_is2jyf3 wrote

Yeah man, this isn’t a “read the room bro” situation. It’s clear cut. It’s fucking Reddit, if you get offended by a joke posted on Reddit that’s CLEARLY NOT ATTACKING ANYONE. You’re part of the problem… okay got it now?

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KimGardnersbossSoros t1_is2kua9 wrote

Callous comments about a tragic accident resulting in the death of someone cannot be viewed as a joke. I’m sorry.

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jaejmd12 t1_is2ldoz wrote

Well Kim I hope you feel like you’ve fufilled your civic duty by commenting on this reddit post. You should do it all day actually to other things you find offensive, this could be the solution for world peace that we’ve all been waiting on. “What would Jesus do?” The poor fools once said. Now, “what would KimGardnersbossSoros’s feelings about the situation be?” Oh how the times have changed.

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KimGardnersbossSoros t1_is2k539 wrote

Obviously you’re not related to the victim

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jaejmd12 t1_is2klfc wrote

Do you realize how crazy you sound? ITS A REDDIT POST there is no “victim” you dunce😂

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PettyPoet t1_is27ueh wrote

You need to learn how to separate a joke from your personal life. Nobody wants to be around a person that always gotta kill the mood by bringing a personal experience into a generally humorous situation. Get over yourself.

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tc65681 t1_is1sc56 wrote

And as a pedestrian remind yourself that it’s ok to walk anywhere to cross the street- not the crosswalk- wear all dark clothing, and when it’s night. Not that this is the case in this situation, but I have had a few near misses in situations just like this

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KimGardnersbossSoros t1_is2cv9l wrote

That wasn’t at all the case. Pedestrians are getting struck at a higher rate today due to in attentiveness by drivers. According to police reports the number one reason is cell phones.

As for the sick joke about Grand theft auto….. that kind of dark humor it does nothing for healing. It only makes the pain worse for those who suffered a loss.

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baby_got_hax t1_is2plw0 wrote

I have suffered a loss n everybody is allowed to heal differently... For some its laughter, no need to chastise for it because it's different than you. People have the right to say what they want to say even if it's a fkd up joke. That being said, I'm sorry for your loss.

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MacAttack2015 t1_is23pg5 wrote

that would make this the second fatal accident involving a pedestrian in like... two weeks ONE WEEK.

this city needs less cars and smaller roads. the inverse will never be safe or sustainable.

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thearticulategrunt t1_is46t3k wrote

To honestly do that correctly we would have to completely change and restructure the way in which we design our city lay outs. Not that that would be bad it would just take a major change in way of thinking and planning.

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MacAttack2015 t1_is5fx9f wrote

As a planner working for the City, I definitely understand how lofty (and unrealistic) of a goal it is. Doesn't change the fact that it's the right thing to do for the future of our community. I do not see City Council or City management ever taking such a progressive stance, however. Money talks.

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thearticulategrunt t1_is8z444 wrote

Lol, if you're a planner for the city we've probably sat in a couple meetings together then. I've seen how well it can and does work in many cities overseas, some who have always worked that way others who are trying to be more sustainable. Planning neighborhoods to be inclusive to all needs, having housing, some jobs, groceries and even some restaurants all within walking distance with public transit linking in to allow easy access to larger services like non-emergency medical...it's like night and day. It could actually be done fairly easily but it is a completely different mind set to the general thought pattern here in the US.

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22TopShelf22 t1_is8zjvy wrote

Watch out for the dangerous streets with too many cars and not enough pedestrians! Smaller roads will not make it safer for other users of the roadway..how do you figure this? Can you kindly go back to whichever coast you came from??

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MacAttack2015 t1_isabddj wrote

smaller roads are scientifically proven to reduce traffic accidents and traffic-related fatalities, but pop off sis! smaller roads force drivers to drive more carefully and slow down, making it safer for other forms of mobility to share the public right-of-way.

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22TopShelf22 t1_is3thtj wrote

Yes. Let's ban cars! Yeah!!! Seriously pal? Are you serious??

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macbeth1608 t1_is3ybol wrote

imagine thinking pedestrian friendly infrastructure is a bad thing… Lol get real

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synystar t1_is467w9 wrote

it's truth though. We could use better public transpo. I moved to within a 10 minute walking distance from my workplace because over the past 10 years i recognized that what used to be a 10 minute drive became a 20 minute drive with a good possibility of being late because of traffic or accidents.

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MacAttack2015 t1_is5fpvk wrote

Reading comprehension and science literacy are key to a successful and balanced society. I think you may want to work on both, bud.

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22TopShelf22 t1_isdwwna wrote

Lolz. Why don't you ban guns and pools while you're at it, because they kill a lot of people too! Maybe you could ban roads? Endless possibilities with people like you involved! Thanks for the data. You haven't proven a point. Only declared an opinion. Big difference! No research. Nothin

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