You're missing my point that I am a gender nonconforming woman while also being a lesbian. Please see "gender variance/nonconforming":

1. Gender variance or gender nonconformity is behavior or gender expression by an individual that does not match masculine or feminine gender norms. A gender-nonconforming person may be variant in their gender identity, being transgender or non-binary, or they may be cisgender.

2. Gender nonconforming means not adhering to society's gender norms. People may describe themselves as gender nonconforming if they don't conform to the gender expression, presentation, behaviors, roles, or expectations that society sees as the norm for their gender. People of any gender identity can be gender nonconforming.

Source 1: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_variance#:~:text=Gender%20variance%20or%20gender%20nonconformity,or%20they%20may%20be%20cisgender.

Source 2: https://www.verywellmind.com/gender-nonconforming-definition-4582878

You're coming off as a complete ass trying to tell OP what they are and aren't, especially since you're wrong.

You're equating non-binary (not woman or man) with gender non conforming, which means one doesn't follow the stereotypical roles and presentation that is expected of their gender (such as butch women or femme men). They're contradictory to each other since non-binary can't be gender non conforming simply because they aren't one of the binary genders to begin with. OP literally says she's a woman, who's lesbian, and is gender non-conforming, which means she doesn't conform to typical woman behaviors/presentation.

Stay in your lane and stop arguing what you don't understand.