You're missing my point that I am a gender nonconforming woman while also being a lesbian. Please see "gender variance/nonconforming":

1. Gender variance or gender nonconformity is behavior or gender expression by an individual that does not match masculine or feminine gender norms. A gender-nonconforming person may be variant in their gender identity, being transgender or non-binary, or they may be cisgender.

2. Gender nonconforming means not adhering to society's gender norms. People may describe themselves as gender nonconforming if they don't conform to the gender expression, presentation, behaviors, roles, or expectations that society sees as the norm for their gender. People of any gender identity can be gender nonconforming.

Source 1: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_variance#:~:text=Gender%20variance%20or%20gender%20nonconformity,or%20they%20may%20be%20cisgender.

Source 2: https://www.verywellmind.com/gender-nonconforming-definition-4582878