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NihilisticThrill t1_jactltv wrote

No offense, but you've already proven twice that when the chips are down and things get hard, you will do what you want to do, even if it's wrong.

All the self hatred you're feeling and expressing is understandable to be honest. You cheated, got away with it, knew the consequences if you did it again and you did it again.

Maybe it's best to let your daughter have that superior care you described.

I'm sure once upon a time your wife was the most important thing in your life, and you threw that away with little rationale. Your daughter may be the best thing in your life, but be honest with yourself. Will that protect her?

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Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jacvocp wrote

No offence taken. There are no words to describe how horrible I have been.

I honestly think that I could be a good father for my daughter still. I know that anything I say sounds ridiculous after what I did but I honestly think I could give my daughter a good life

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Ocean_Spice t1_jacx7iv wrote

What part of cheating on her mom makes you a good father?

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Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jacxmhs wrote

Everything I feel and everything I’ve done apart from that

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Ocean_Spice t1_jad4hcv wrote

Oh, sure. Cheating on her mom and blowing up her whole family and potentially throwing her life deep into turmoil is a wonderful dad move because you feel bad now. Bro, what??

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Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jad58gr wrote

I can’t take back anything I’ve done. I will regret it until I die. Nobody will be ever believe me (and I can’t blame them) but I love my daughter very much and I would take good care of her.

I hate that it will hurt my wife but I honestly believe I can give a better upbringing than my wife all things considered.

There will be hurt and turmoil. I will be to blame. My shame is eternal

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OurMasterAM t1_jacwyy4 wrote

You could give her a good life - but could you give her the best life she can have?

It sounds like the mother is better at caring for her, and she's more attached to her mother. It may be a "if you love her, let her go" situation - let her life with the parent that'll give her the best life. Ask the wife if you can pay child support, so that way you can take some of the burden off your wife and support your child.

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