I never said I was the victim. I definitely am not

I don’t think my wife’s country is gross and sad. I just think my country has a better environment for children.

I have no right to be believed. I did that. I completely accept that but it is how I feel

That’s a fair criticism and I deserve it but it’s not how I feel. I messed up twice and I deserve the divorce. I can only try and take care of my daughter by letting her have the best upbringing. I think that is in my country, and not in my wife’s

It’s not just about money. It’s about the whole environment she’ll be brought up in

I change nappies, do playtime, read multiple books to my baby every day. Nobody could accuse me of not doing enough for my daughter.

Bonking the other woman has happened twice only, and that’s the honest truth even if nobody believes me. It doesn’t make it better or excusable in any way and I won’t be believed but I can only tell my truth. There’s no point lying to look good to a bunch of strangers

I’m doing what I think is best for my daughters future. I hate that it’s not aligned with what wife wants and it will hurt her.

I am already the asshole. I can only try and do what I think is best for my daughter

Rule of law isn’t as strong in every country. Just because it’s law doesn’t mean you can enforce your rights.

In the country in question I have, based on credible multiple sources, I will have essentially 0 ability for visitation

I cheated 5 months ago. She has since become pregnant. She wasn’t pregnant when I cheated

I can only try and balance what I think is best for my daughter and my wife and for me that means trying to make sure my daughter gets the best upbringing I can give her despite the mess that I’ve made

I’m listening. I hear all the hate and I accept all of it. I know this is all my fault and I deserve to die alone.

I can only do what’s best for my daughter. If I end up alone it’s nothing more than what I deserve. Until then I hope I can do as much for my daughter as I can

It split custody would work id go for it but I know that when my wife gets on the plane I’m never seeing her or my daughter ever again.

My daughter is young and has a natural bond with the mother. I need to make the decision based on her entire childhood, not just her current age.

My decisions are definitely not to spite my wife. I am extremely sorry about what I have put her through and the last thing I want is to put her through more pain but I need to take the emotion out of it all and focus on what I think is best for my daughter.

She may very well end up hating me. I deserve no less. I can’t control that but I can give her the best upbringing I can and then let her make her decisions when she is old enough

That wouldn’t be what’s best for my daughter so I can’t do that.

I hate that my wife suffers because of my actions and I wish I could take it back but I can’t so I need to focus on my daughter’s upbringing

My hands are not tied. I am making the best decision I can for my daughter. Unfortunately it hurts my wife.

I hate myself for what my wife has to go through but I need to put emotions aside and see what is best for my daughter

It’s not completely about the money. It’s the whole environment.

I know that I completely ruined this family and it’s my fault. That doesn’t prevent me from giving my daughter the love and care she deserves.

She may probably decide to walk away from me at some point. I deserve it. Until then I can only give her the best upbringing I can.

I would go for split custody if I could but the wife is 100% leaving for her country so that won’t work

I’m being 100% honest so my wife’s side is probably not too dissimilar from mine.

I’m as fked up as it sounds, but I can only try to do what’s best from here for my daughter

You are right. She will probably resent me when I give the the truth eventually about what happened.

That doesn’t change the fact that I think I can give her a better life than my wife could.

What my daughter decides to do when she’s an adult is out of my hands. I can only try to let her have the best upbringing possible under the circumstances (which I am aware are completely my fault)

Thank you for your advice. I will be doing this (the lawyer part).

I know what I deserve and I’ll have to work to do the best I can, knowing I created all of this mess

Wife is relocating to her country. That’s non negotiable unfortunately. Daughter is young now but i need to make the decision based on her whole life not her current age

It’s what I deserve

I’m trying to do what I think is best for my daughter.

It’s not perfect and unfortunately it hurts my wife but it’s the best I think I can do

I think you know it all now. I’m scum

You’re not wrong with anything you said

I have no words to explain why I did it a second time.

I am very ashamed of my behaviour and I wouldn’t do it a third time even if I hadn’t been caught.

I’m aware I’m a failure as a human being

My daughter is 19 months old and doesn’t have a voice yet.

My wife already resents me and for good reason. The last thing I want to do is hurt her more but I need to consider both my wife and my daughters interests