Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jad2ioe wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:53 PM

Reply to comment by AnimatorDifferent116 in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

She’s now pregnant

AnimatorDifferent116 t1_jad3b40 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:58 PM

Ooofff... and the FU is getting even bigger. How far is her home country? Honestly, I would let her go and financially support her and would ask to have the kids over the summer as well as Christmas holidays.

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jad3g7f wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:59 PM

Home country is a 13 hour flight away. Zero chance of contact if she leaves the country, let alone any kind of custody arrangement

AnimatorDifferent116 t1_jad47qr wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:04 PM

Anyway, you can't have a newborn separated from her mom... so you have to find a way to make it work. 13 hours twice a year is doable

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jad4ot4 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:07 PM

I would make it work if I could, but it won’t be possible. That is definitely off the table

AnimatorDifferent116 t1_jad547w wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:10 PM

So the only option is to pay her good alimony and child support so she can stay here where you are, and you'll get sufficient visitation rights. You can't have it both ways.

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jad5hhu wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:12 PM

She won’t stay here no matter what I pay her. She is 100% returning to her home country

BeckyW77 t1_jaea1pv wrote on February 28, 2023 at 8:29 PM

You cheated on her when she was pregnant? WTF, dude? Not one of your actions shows that you truly love your wife or your child(ren). Even you saying that you can raise your child(ren) better is just you wanting to have your own way.

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jaealef wrote on February 28, 2023 at 8:33 PM

I cheated 5 months ago. She has since become pregnant. She wasn’t pregnant when I cheated