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Specialist-Farm-931 t1_j8hho4h wrote

Sigh ngl if it was just pure friendship type thing Sabrina wouldn't have even guessed. But she was suspicious of things that made her ask this. Maybe your behaviour and all might seem only platonic to you guys but for others it must be obvious that there is/was something going on between you all.

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Eckieflump t1_j8hqw6l wrote

As someone who has slept with a number of people who I am still friends with over 20 years since we last did anything sexual you are 100% right.

Once you have been that close to someone, unless it has dissolved into a dislike and you don't see each other again, there will always be little clues that you will give out in your body language and interactions.

I'm not talking about draping over each other but simple things like just brushing past through a gap without thought rather than asking someone to move a little or if they mind.

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stackjr t1_j8kffnn wrote

I'll definitely agree with this. It's impossible to be that intimate with someone and not be different afterwards. I've run into this very situation more than a few times and it always results in someone's feelings getting hurt.

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Eckieflump t1_j8mhrtl wrote

I can't speak for others on this, but I have always been very open about who I have 'done things with' and still see from time to time as friends with my subsequent girlfriends.

Communication and transparency. I am married and my wife knows, has met and is friendly with all of my ex fwb that i am still in touch with. If i became single and my new girlfriend couldn't handle that i am friends with someone I have previously had sex with, then they are not the right person for me. I am not going to walk away from a totally secure and loving friendship with people I have known for over 30 years in some cases just because someone I met many years later it feels all insecure.

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