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TexasMeatCrayon t1_jb0kzrr wrote

You’re already doing better than most of us. I don’t know anyone, including myself, who ever got a server’s number and then heard back from them.

Keep it casual, be her friend. There’s no rush.

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blahbleh112233 t1_jb0l7rr wrote

Depends on the country, think of it like securing repeat customers if they're not creeps. Good on OP though, sounds like a good night

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guutarajouzu OP t1_jb4er56 wrote

I think it helped a LOT that I'm not military, spoke her language and more importantly, I'm a needy sucker with a fear of commitment 😂

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blahbleh112233 t1_jb5he7z wrote

Ah, wasn't my intention to sound cynical. Loneliness sucks and hostess bars are popular for a reason. Just don't overcomit to what may be a superficial relationship

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guutarajouzu OP t1_jb7v0fo wrote

Exactly this! It's a mutually beneficial arrangement: she gets money to pay her bills and I get to feel desirable for an hour or so

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advertisementeconomy t1_jb0wupu wrote

The US or maybe European model you're likely thinking of here probably doesn't apply. A hostess isn't a waitress or a bartender (at least not strictly) her purpose is to get customers to buy her drinks. So getting her number isn't surprising because that's how she'll maintain regular customers.

As a friend once explained it to me, her job is to turn you upside down and shake all the coins out of your pockets, only after a few drinks it can quickly become hundreds of dollars followed by some sober remorse.

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TexasMeatCrayon t1_jb0wz9i wrote

Not a model, the complete concept. I didn’t know this was a thing.

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BigHawkSports t1_jb0tbi8 wrote

Well...she's not just a server per se, this would be the equivalent of being excited that the onlyfans model DMed you back.

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TexasMeatCrayon t1_jb0uoh4 wrote

I’ve neither heard of, nor been to, a bar where women gave me attention. That girl must have an iron liver.

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PsyTama69 t1_jb49yig wrote

The concept is OP will suggest meeting up, but 'oh no, I have to work. Why don't you just stop by for a bit and we'll catch up'

It's almost certainly a burner specifically for the purpose

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guutarajouzu OP t1_jb4eu5r wrote

I'd be disappointed if her number wasn't a burner: she's not taking enough precautions

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guutarajouzu OP t1_jb4ekkl wrote

Yup yup, she was really swell gal who obviously knows how to spin a yarn and keep the conversation (and drinks) flowing

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