Any one persons opinion is skewed by their experience so that’s what I’m giving this guy advice from instead of pretending to be the sexual thought police haha. So with that said;

I know what women really think about an unexpected mouthful of jizz. Because although it would be convenient for your own personal narrative that I fit into whatever strange Frankenstein of poor traits you like to assume men to be so you can dismiss them, uh I don’t haha. I’m happily engaged, I rarely watch porn anymore, I’ve had many long term and short term relationships, I’ve been in polyamorous relationships and I always talk to my partners about preferences. But not for this weird line of thinking you seem to have that cumming in someone’s mouth unexpectedly is borderline sexual assault, but because sex is supposed to be fun like I said before. And for it to be fun everyone involved should feel heard and excited and safe.

That’s where your line of thinking seems to hit a wall. You say you want all those prerequisites too but you don’t actually. You only want them for the side that you relate most too. Because what you’re failing to see is that these rigid borders you’re putting on for sex to acceptable does not make men feel safe. It makes them feel like they’re one good blow job away from being a sex offender. I understand that women have had it bad in the past. I understand the trauma of rape more so than your narrow paradigm would let you associate to me because of my sex. But we’re swinging the damn pendulum back to far the other way. It’s not a coincidence women of my generation when polled consistently wish men would approach them more, and make more first moves. You’ve all got them scared shitless haha. Why can’t we bring the pendulum softly back to the middle together instead of constantly kicking it as hard as we can because the past was worse than the present (isn’t that kind of what progress is?).

So back to the real task at hand, of my 30ish I’m guessing sample size I have never met anyone that would react this way. It seems a bit over the top and not indicative of someone who’s very experienced (not a problem) or understanding. I’ve been with partners who didn’t like it one specific memory was a friend of mine with who I had sex causally from time to time and I did this same thing once I just got too excited and I came faster than I could give proper warning. She spit it out said GROSS and we laughed. And to address the sex isn’t supposed to be nasty comment, uh it’s nasty by design haha. We’re exchanging bodily fluids, we’re putting our mouth in and on each others genitals and anus’. How is that not nasty? I mean theres a whole specific avenue of disease and infection just specifically from these acts haha how is that not nasty?

So, if you got this far haha I’d like to offer you a counter thought experiment. If the roles were reversed and he was performing oral on one of those glorious woman who can ejaculate, and she cums and it gets in his mouth (which of course it would) and he got up and seemed totally disgusted and made her feel ashamed and then ignored her…would you be reacting the same way? Or would you say he’s acting immature, and you shouldn’t feel shame for orgasming?