AttractiveNuisance37 t1_it4vclp wrote on October 20, 2022 at 11:14 PM

Reply to comment by lavishlad in TIFU by asking my friend out and destroying our chance of being together. by IAMSRK07

I think you're underestimating the potential danger women face being more direct with Nice Guy types. I'm absolutely not accusing OP of anything here, but there is, in general, a safety aspect underlying a lot of the gentl3 non-rejection rejections, so just telling women to be more direct is not super helpful.

lavishlad t1_it51p8g wrote on October 21, 2022 at 12:02 AM

Yeah I realize that the indirectness, like most common behaviors, is born out of necessity more than anything.

Just saying that it can give the guy an excuse to reason out that it wasn't really a rejection. And if the guy asks to hang out a lot still, after the incident, it should be an immediate red flag for the girl that he hasn't got the message.

Because if it was a direct rejection, very few guys would be okay with hanging out with the girl too often after the incident.