That is not the full story and please dont assume things about me and my family. There were many things that led up to me hating her completely and this was the incident where i finally snapped at her instead of bottling up emotions. She just wasnt meant to be a mother and shouldve probably worked past her own trauma first.

Wow... That's a weird way to look at it, letting her live in the house and feeding/clothing her are things she's entitled to get from her parents given that shes still a minor. If her parents didnt do those bare minimum things they would be awful people, that isnt some favor theyre doing her. She didn't choose to be born, her mom chose to have her, so acting like her mom is being generous in anyway for doing what is literally her job is ridiculous considering that's doing the bare minimum as a parent.

Obviously rules should be in place and not having boyfriends over or being alone with a boy in her room would be fair rules but this is not that. Saying your kid can't masturbate or freaking out like she describes in this post is just creepy and expecting to be in control of what she does with her own body when she's alone isn't normal.