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RonNona t1_iym0yak wrote

Drop off of social media, for a fixed amount of time. You may be surprised that you are fine, even better off, without it. It is causing you stress. Try it for 3 months.

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TileTone t1_iym1qrg wrote

I dropped Facebook about 7 years back at this point and I don't have a single urge to create a new one. At lot less drama and shit. Also reddit is superior for memes anyways.

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RonNona t1_iyn50td wrote

Good for you, sounds like a positive outcome.

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ItzLeoo t1_iym1syg wrote

I did it for a month and I felt great. I’m also just trying to build up an audience for my tiktok and so I need social media for now. It just seems ridiculous that I can mind my own business and this still happens.

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HandRailSuicide1 t1_iym1sd3 wrote

So she viewed your account and has done nothing else. Seems relatively benign to me. On social media, you’re always under constant surveillance. Only way to get around that is to delete your account

I fail to see how going scorched earth on her is warranted

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ItzLeoo t1_iym1wpe wrote

Because it’s been happening for months and she refuses to tell me who’s helping her spy on me. She’s completely blocked. She’s going out of her way to check up on what I’m doing. I don’t see how that’s benign.

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Tsubodai86 t1_iym2upd wrote

Spy on you through the content you post publicly. Right.

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ItzLeoo t1_iym3bas wrote

She wouldn’t have found it without people sending her my posts on Instagram 🤷🏼‍♂️

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TheFunnyMeme69 t1_iym3f3l wrote

I just saw it get deleted I didn't even finish reading it man come on

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cwn24 t1_iym3jug wrote

I’m not sure I quite understand this - how can she see any of your content if you’ve blocked her? People might send her things, but the most she should be able to see is your profile page but almost none of the content.

Has she done anything with the instagram posts that is cause for concern?

I think you might want to take a break from social media and not focus so much on what your ex is doing - just because she viewed your profile doesn’t mean anything nefarious. Personally, with only the information you’ve provided here to judge by, I don’t find this strange or worrying. After breakups people often are curious to see what their exes are up to/how they are doing.

I’d honestly be more concerned that there are people you’re connected to who insist on sharing your content with her despite having been broken up however long. Those people seem to be meddlesome shitstirrers, and the best approach is to give them nothing to work with. Any inkling who in your circle would be doing something like this?

ETA: I see in another comment you’re trying to build up a presence on TikTok - you’re going to have to come to terms with the fact that once you put content out there in the world, what people do with it and how they respond/react to it is going to be entirely out of your control. I worry that given this example with your ex, trying to build a TikTok presence might not be a healthy option for you and your mental health.

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Pillens_burknerkorv t1_iym45jd wrote

Friends share OPs posts to her. And here is where the real problem lies. Who the fuck goes out of their way to relay someone’s social media??

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cwn24 t1_iym4a8s wrote

Yes I acknowledged the unnamed followers/friends as the core issue - I don’t really get how sharing things with her would enable her to see the content though if she’s been blocked by OP? How is that possible?

I’m not on Insta so I’m concerned about this loophole if blocked people can still see content this way when to my knowledge they shouldn’t be able to - might be worth a message to the help center or something

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Nytonial t1_iym45qn wrote

Social media be wild "I wanna document every piece of my life and publicise it. Except these few/groups of people who are gross/weird if they look at it"

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WilsonPB t1_iym4rfc wrote

If I put a poster on the front of my house, I can't be annoyed when people look at it.

If you post publically viewable content on SM, that's your fault.

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