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dasbootdasfoot t1_j1nnd6v wrote

You're only 19. Life is too short to worry. I'm nearly 40 and I'm only just realising what I want lol

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Lined_the_Street t1_j1nmvt0 wrote

It sucks, it may seem impossible but you're putting both yourself and him in a bad position by dragging this out. What happens if he hits you with a "Will you marry me?"

I hope you the strength to do what you need to do and for good luck in the coming new year

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mp_phantom t1_j1nm99a wrote

You know you have to loose that guy. Be honest and straight about your intentions and don't look back.

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Apollo_3249 t1_j1o7d6f wrote

The awkward conversations suck so bad, but they must be had. It seems easier to just kick the can some days rather than throwing in the towel. But being as young as you are, and how new your relationship is, it’s best to move on before building any more on an attachment on either end. You should still be in the “honeymoon” phase and if your having cold feet now it will only intensity from here on out

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curiouscuriel t1_j1pfzbo wrote

Communicating your wants and needs gets better with practice. At this point you have 2 choices, break up for your own sake or stay together for his. It's never too late to tell the truth. Don't wait for the right moment, just get it over with. You could always do it by text and then block him if you want to be avoidant and passive about it.

Another angle to consider is why is he lying? And what about? Some people lie out of reflex, as a response to trauma, to avoid conflict or to prevent you from being disappointed. In the microsecond one has to decide on what to say in response to a question, some people's brains are wired to give the answer that they think will be the most pleasing or least upsetting to the listener. I'm not saying that helps you to trust him necessarily, but if it's something automatic that he does, and over the stupidest things, then he may not be able to help it and it may have nothing to do with you.

If he's lying to control and manipulate that is much more sinister.

If you are done just get it over with, otherwise you are wasting everyone's time. You'll feel better once you do.

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