dankscope420 t1_j6arx0c wrote on January 29, 2023 at 12:09 AM

in general even if it was completely true that’s still way past expired as something you can bring up. harboring things like this and calling them out of the blue way down the line is just hurtful and not constructive. if you have a problem express it right away or you pretty much lose your right to, things like this are much more hurtful to hear after the fact because nothing can be done about it. then they also have to assume that you have just been resenting them the whole time for it. not trying to make you feel any worse about the situation but that’s just not healthy communication even if it was truthful. i’m sure if you try to explain to him that other factors were at play like him sleeping late, and explain that it was just misplaced anger he will probably understand.

[deleted] OP t1_j6asvza wrote on January 29, 2023 at 12:16 AM

You’re 100000% correct here. It’s something that’s happened way too long ago and shouldn’t even be relevant to todays issues. The more I talk about it the more I think I see why I said it but it doesn’t make it okay nor justified. I definitely explained to him why I think I said it and apologized for saying it and that I do acknowledge how great of a parent he is with our child. I don’t want him to think I see less of him or anything like that. I know I fucked up. Bleh. I feel super shitty about it.