Eldryanyyy t1_j6dtx7i wrote
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In japan that is not the case. I worked in japan last year, and know firsthand that women are allotted more than men. It sounds like half your post is likely BS. I can’t be arsed to check, but even if the rest of your countries listed are accurate, that is about 2.5% of the world’s population.
As I said, in the vast majority of the world, women get more time than men…
Time off for maternity leave is not related to any pregnancy injury. It’s longer than typical recovery times. So, the edit is irrelevant.
ProbablyNotADuck t1_j6dv7ap wrote
https://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2022/04/04/national/social-issues/child-care-leave-law-amendment/
So you talked to HR and got all of the nuances? Or you just made assumptions based on what you saw? Because I seriously doubt you spent a lot of time with new parents discussing how they planned to allocate their leave. Because law grants either parent in Japan leave. Way to not know what you’re talking about.
You know that there are also countries that don’t even give any time off, right? And that in countries where there aren’t specific guidelines, it is up to employers to determine policies. Was I supposed to go over labour laws for all 195 countries in the world? If I don’t, are you just going to continue to try to claim I have no argument?
Eldryanyyy t1_j6dwdpf wrote
The law you’re discussing wasn’t only passed recently, but holds little ground in japan where building relationships at work trumps legal technicalities. Most men still won’t take the leave, or face consequences, while women will not face those consequences.
China offers 98 days to women, up to 15 days for men depending on wife age.
India offers 26 weeks maternity leave, 0 paternity leave.
That’s almost 50% of the world right there. Compared to your 2%. Satisfied?
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_leave
You can see the times of each country under ‘by continent’.
ProbablyNotADuck t1_j6dxq9b wrote
Yes. Reference China and India…. Two countries known for their high quality labour laws and excellent working conditions. That will definitely prove your point.
Eldryanyyy t1_j6dxxze wrote
I left the Wikipedia with every country’ policy listed. Essentially 0% have equal leave.
ProbablyNotADuck t1_j6dycca wrote
Your statement was fathers get nothing. I said this is not true in many countries. I provided examples of multiple countries where parental leave, inclusive of leave for fathers, is provided. I supported my argument, which showed your argument (that fathers receive nothing) is inaccurate when it comes to multiple countries and is continuing to improve.
Great job.
Also, maternity leave may not have to do with recovery time, but it sure as hell has a lot to do with practicality. Men don’t lactate. Formula is expensive. Uptake on parental leave by men is still slow (which is what that japanese article was about.. it wasn’t new policy; it was about promoting existing policy so more men use it by requiring companies to make sure they reiterate it to men). There are so many countries where women aren’t even seen as people still.. where they aren’t able to drive, or their wardrobes are dictated, or they can’t get a quality education… and you’re using those countries, the ones that are forcing women into a role that solely exists to procreate, as examples of how men are hard done by because they don’t get equal leave after a woman gives birth.
We do need to promote equality for parental leave because it equally impacts women who would prefer to return to work… but we need to promote equality in general and not penalizing for taking leave. Because, guess what, it is still damaging to a woman’s career if she is off for a year raising kids.
Eldryanyyy t1_j6e8mtn wrote
No… your argument falls short.
Because maternity leave is so much longer, the mom will be with the baby while the father gets nothing. I said this because it means that the scenario described in OP will inevitably occur, due to systemic differences in gender treatment under the laws of 99% of countries. Your argument fails to address that.
About practicality: We have these things called refrigerators, where we can store milk… although many women use powder these days. That’s not why women have more leave.
About your ‘well this is wrong for women’: There are 0 countries where women aren’t viewed as people. I’ve lived in ‘oppressive’ countries (notably a few STAN countries), and women are respected in all of them… Not driving or wearing sexy clothes doesn’t make someone not a person. Although those laws exist in like 2 countries, you’d be shocked how open minded the reality is in those countries.
Lastly: Whether it damages a career or not depends on the career.
ProbablyNotADuck t1_j6edb6p wrote
Do you know how breasts work? Because they still require pumping.. so there is time dedicated to that if a woman is going keep lactating, meaning time during the day to pump (20-30 minutes to do it properly), a thermal bag to store breastmilk.. storage at home for breastmilk. You really do not seem to know much about this.. especially based on your comment again about powder. Formula is really expensive. While, yes, people absolutely use it, it adds significant costs if you are dependent entirely on formula.
There are also way more than two countries where modesty laws exist and even more countries where equality is a massive issue.
Eldryanyyy t1_j6ekgtm wrote
I’m discussing laws about driving. Actually only 1 country. Modesty laws are in almost every country, affecting men and women.
20-30 minutes a day… is not the reason why women get entire days off work. I’ve had colleagues store the milk during lunch breaks, in countries with lower leave times.
Equality is something a few countries don’t have, but based on your posts, I highly doubt you’ve ever seen what these countries are actually like.
ProbablyNotADuck t1_j6fkqxz wrote
Great one. You are showing a lack of understanding when it comes to multiple things.
Firstly, it isn't 20-30 minutes per day. It is 20-30 minutes per pumping session. That is 8-10 times per day. And, again, I did not say it is impossible to do this. I said it was incredibly inconvenient to do this. Talking about your colleagues is not going to do much here because you've already proven yourself to know very little about most anything surrounding this. Clearly, you are a man. There is definitely no way that you are paying this much attention to what your female colleagues are doing with their breasts during the work day because, if you were, you'd look like a giant pervert.
And now you're going to try to claim that I haven't been exposed to other cultures? That definitely is going to give your baseless comments merit. Admittedly, I have not been to China. I've been to India. I've been to Iceland. I've been to the UK. I've been to Pakistan. How many more countries do you want me to list? Because I spent most of my 20s working for an International humanitarian organization and dealt with maternal, newborn and child health.. so I can go for a while here and I can list a whole lot of stuff. I'd like you to continue to tell me how hard men have it when it comes to childcare when there are a significant number of countries that don't even provide women with enough care to give them good odds during childbirth.
Eldryanyyy t1_j6h5frl wrote
India isn’t the country you discussed where women ‘aren’t treated like human beings’. Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Iran…are. Changing the subject pretty obviously when it’s clear you are wrong.
8 times a day is for new mothers. Maternity leave is way too long for that to ever be relevant. Changing the subject again. Most women only pump every 4 hours when they return to work. Once before work, once during lunch, once after work.
Seems the lack of understanding clearly isn’t mine.
Men often have no right to even raise their own children in many countries. Including the west. However, this argument style of ‘what about men and this’ is clearly a deflection because you know I’m right.
billebop96 t1_j6eqohb wrote
They never said fathers get nothing, only that in most places, mothers generally get more. Sure, that’s starting to change but it’s definitely still not at parity in much of the world.
ProbablyNotADuck t1_j6fjcvv wrote
They actually literally said fathers get nothing in their original comment.
"Or because women get maternal leave, and fathers get nothing"
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