Bender3455

Bender3455 t1_je658un wrote

Oh absolutely! The most I do with clouds (for example) is take pictures of very dynamic skies, then replace them into photos with boring skies, and adjust lighting to match. Here, you're creating the clouds and the atmosphere, and it all comes together beautifully. I'm honestly extremely impressed. I have so many questions, but i'll let you get back to your art. Have a good day!

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Bender3455 t1_jcgsmi5 wrote

I really wish we could talk in person, as I'm just an "internet stranger" posting an opposing viewpoint as it is right now. Anyone that knows me knows that I strive for equality for everyone, regardless of race, sex, gender, etc etc. I agree with you, yes, I'm steering it away from his ethnicity, but thats because I don't think it's ethnicity based, even though, granted, it's a more common hair style for African Americans than other races. My own brother was advised not to wear JNCO pants in the late 90's because my mother said he'd look like a thug. But don't forget, I mentioned that we're thankfully getting past the 'hair styles as a gauge of character', and thats for all races. But all that to say, what I'm really upset about, is the blame Colin put on his own parents. I don't think his angle of blaming them is professional at all. His message about becoming aware of racial biasing is a good one, but the way he's doing it, and has been doing it is terrible, in my opinion.

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Bender3455 t1_jbqsy7y wrote

Every single person on the planet has their own struggles, their own battles, their own disadvantages to overcome. While I do not have black skin, I had to deal with my own struggles getting to where I am. I don't downplay other people's struggles, perhaps you should do the same.

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Bender3455 t1_jbqq5dg wrote

What I believe is backed by a Master's Degree, 2 successful businesses, recognition as a local leader and advisor in the community, as well as my upbringing in a lower middle class family, going to school in an inner city magnet school, and my personal findings on how to create personal success.

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Bender3455 t1_jbqm3rc wrote

Ah, gotcha. I actually don't believe that to be true, personally, as far as what "dressing well" entails. Heck, when I was growing up, it felt like my thick hair only wanted to do one thing; look like a 70's porno commercial. Back on topic though, as a black man, there's certain styles that look more professional than other styles. Same with white men, or any other race. Fortunately, hair style is getting less 'taboo' and we can focus more on other outward justifiers. But, 20 years ago, the standards were more strict, and that was for everyone, including me.

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Bender3455 t1_jbqjgyb wrote

I appreciate your input, but I disagree on one thing you mentioned: "His parents may have been trying to teach a lesson, but they taught the wrong one." I'm speculating slightly (based on what was written) that his parents were trying to teach him to not "look like a thug" (quoting them), and while the definition behind that has changed, it's still something that I believe is correct to teach, regardless of race. Cindi Lauper in the 80's (white girl) would buzz one side of her hair, and that was considered taboo at the time. But let's go back to your statement that I quoted; what lesson do you believe the parents should have been teaching instead?

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Bender3455 t1_jbqcbtj wrote

No they didn't. There's a big difference between dressing for success and being a racist. His comments are in direct regard to him "looking like a thug" if he chose certain hairstyles, and that that would hinder his success. It's the same as if my daughter wants to put oversized gauges in her ears, or get a neck/face tattoo. There are things that people (kids) do that can hinder their success, and it's our job as parents to prepare them for these situations, whatever they eventually choose to do.

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Bender3455 t1_jbqb2g4 wrote

His words come across as not understanding what his parents were trying to say. I give success advice and the 2 things that are (initially) important are how you dress and how you speak. Just as dreads were not a professional look 20 years ago, neither were mohawks or women with buzzed heads on any race. Nowadays, the hairstyles of people have become less criticized (thankfully), but the two points remain; dress well and speak well.

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Bender3455 t1_j20pjjx wrote

I remember when we were kids, me and my sister couldn't figure out why Dorothy was so young and pouty. With the rest of the characters, our parents told us that the magic of Oz changed them as they got older. But yeah...nightmare fuel indeed, lol.

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Bender3455 t1_iu0t9pb wrote

Hi Dr Lee! I have hypomania, which has a wonderful side effect of keeping me positive most of the time. I also take care to try not to stress about anything as much as possible. I keep trying to tell my friends that being positive and stress free gives me both longevity and better quality of life, long term, and that they should actively try to do the same. I know that stress can cause averse health consequences, but does a lack of stress cause "slower aging", for lack of a better term?

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