I "had it all together" by my mid twenties as well. Great job, car, and house. But I wasn't truly happy with who I was or what I was doing. Still in progress!

You're only 25 man. You are not supposed to have it figured out yet. Anyone thats 25 and says they have it all together is lying. With all of the events that have happened recently, people in their 20s-30s have been impacted the most truly.

I have ADHD as well, it does have an impact in how you develop your sense of self. All the things people told me as a kid emphasized how dumb and incapable I was. Sometimes I still believe that to be true, when its really not. My defense mechanism became dissociating, which I still struggle with at times. But it really helps to know how that impacted me and what my brain is telling me is false.

It can take time to find direction. Be patient with yourself and try new things.