My question is: is it really necessary to check in for 30 days with an exile after unburdoning?
I struggle with it because a lot of the 'talking with parts' doesnt happen in my system. They barely talk, so its hard to even know which part is which. I often cry and it feels healing, but Im often unsure if it was an exile or maybe a stressed out manager that was crying. Sometimes I dont even know why im crying, I just feel grief without a clear reason. So I dont even see how I could check back in with the part in that case.
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Hey Lucille!
My question is: is it really necessary to check in for 30 days with an exile after unburdoning?
I struggle with it because a lot of the 'talking with parts' doesnt happen in my system. They barely talk, so its hard to even know which part is which. I often cry and it feels healing, but Im often unsure if it was an exile or maybe a stressed out manager that was crying. Sometimes I dont even know why im crying, I just feel grief without a clear reason. So I dont even see how I could check back in with the part in that case.
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kind regards,
Daniël