Dorkamundo

Dorkamundo t1_je2he2g wrote

Choice.

Really, that's the crux of it. A person can choose to identify however they want, there's no set criteria for what would make a person choose to be identified as male or female, it's simply "What makes that person feel more comfortable?"

Now, inevitably this is confusing for people at times, especially when the outward signs would suggest that the person should be considered one or the other based on appearance. But making mistakes is part of life, and if that person tells you they prefer another pronoun, it's just common courtesy to do so.

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