I will say that when I said he gets pissed he yells. But he has never once yelled at me. Fight, or angry with something his voice has never deviated the normal calm and gentleness that he always speaks to me with

I'll be sitting down with him tonight.

Another commenter brought it up. It's a good idea and what I'm gonna end up doing. Thank you.

Unfortunately he's the one that brought it up that's its how he unwinds and before I was stupid enough to believe that.

Yeah it may come down to it.

Surprisingly no. He lived on his own for a little but before I moved out of my first apartment. I'm unsure if I said it in the post but he used to be great about us cleaning. I do agree that he does need to buck up.

Good point. We did recently buy a month white board with a notes section. I'll have to bring this up with him, it's not the first thing I would've wanted to do but I'm afraid I'm at this point. Thank you.

I've brought it up with his mother and she said that often times she would turn his PC off because he wouldn't do what he was asked to. I've done it once before and it got results for a bit but I don't want to have to do that. I just want him to understand that he needs to help out.