I so agree with you.

Once you are married then she becomes your wife and they won't be able to control her ...put on a happy face and marry her.

You love her but just don't like her parents...that happens more than you know. Get married and get through the wedding with the in laws and live a happy life.

That's really dumb

A gentleman will always walk on the outside of the path to protect his lady. He was raised right.

Set a date night once a week. And follow through. Prioritize your time so everyone is happy.

In order for this to work she needs to tell you and show you proof of her credit card debt and all expenses and other debts...she could consolidate into one payment a month or multiple payments depending on what she owes. Discuss payment plans and savings plans. She sounds like a mess. With your help and guidance she could be on the right track and you both can be happy in your relationship but she needs to be honest.

Yikes...pack up your stuff when he is not home and move out...save up some money, get a job and leave...be independent so you never have to depend on a POS like him

Well there you go

I'm glad she is...if your boyfriend wants to get you a nice gift then let him and don't feel guilty. One day you'll be able to get him a nice gift but for now enjoy your birthday.

Don't listen to his mother...she has nothing to do with your relationship. Us women are worth it and sometimes we want something nice and expensive and it's ok ...hope he gets the Uggs for you and his mother stays out of your business.

He's a narcissist...when his girlfriend is not around he reaches out to you. He needs constant attention. Block him. Cut contact with him. Be happy that you are not the girlfriend and he's talking to a side piece.

If you can get rid of some stuff then that would be progress...even if it's a few things at a time

Get some storage bins to organize and put away...boxes for donation and garbage bags for throw away. List some stuff to local marketplace and do it together one afternoon when you are both free. What I did with my boyfriends stuff is I just did it myself because he wouldn't do it. I showed him item by item and he told me... keep, donate, throw out. It was better me do it that way than spend a year looking at it.

It was his birthday and because it was never discussed...you should let it go but definitely have a long conversation and set boundaries

Yes very true...I didn't think about that

She needs to check his web search...this is disturbing

Check his computer to make sure he's not watching other stuff involving kids

I was thinking that too...maybe it was just in the background

Give it your all. Be present for him. He is checking out because you are not there...be there for him.

The way he sees it is that you already had plenty of time...8 years worth of time...you don't do something real quick then he will end it for good

Tell him to get a job...any job...and not a job that's convenient for him...times are tough and you need help. What I did when I was in your situation...I started looking for jobs for my boyfriend...and texting him the ads and pushed him to go to work without nagging and it worked. He's probably in a slump and needs a push.

Yes forget about it...there's nothing going on...he's good