Oh buddy, that is a whole list of insane red-flag type boundaries. Every single one of those are controlling.

She wasn't looking for a reletionship, she was looking for ownership. Each of those 'boundaries' was to isolate you. She wanted authority over you...

Yikes dude... glad you're out of that one.

She is the prime example of a person you should avoid in dating. Moving forward, please avoid women such as her.

You should edit your post to include those examples.

Can you share some examples?

We would be able to tell you if that is reasonable or controlling.

But generically speaking, besides the big no-nos (cheating/flirting).

This a a fair baseline:

• I have these boundaries about myself that you want to respect. Healthy
• I have this boundary that I am placing on you that dedicates your behavior. Bad.

Yeah, you’re right. Your name is legally on the lease, you have a legal right to your own residence.

Sorry you’re going through this, but start documenting everything.

If for any reason this turns ugly (police or court), you’ll be thankful you have documentation that’s against her and supports you.

Even things like receipts for hotel stays. She could be held accountable for those costs as she denied you entry to your own home.

I don't know, this kind of sounds backwards...

You had an inkling this guy liked you. You started giving him more attention. Invited him outside of work... He went out of his way to sign up for volunteer (probably just to impress you).

And you're upset your boyfriend isn't jealous about it?

If you're doing this type of thing to test your BFs reaction, just break up.

Yeah, when there is zero balance like that, its not healthy.

You have to side with your partner and validate their feelings. And a good partner would challenge you occasionally (not always agreeing with what you say).

Except when he always is defaulting to the other side, it shows he stands more against you, than with you.

If a partner always stood next to you... it would make the times of disagreement more viable. It would be done out of good intentions, rather than disagreeing for the sake of no respect.