I think deep down I knew that but again, sometimes it can be personal preference. So that I you for putting some clarity to it.

Further to dodging a bullet, after being told I was the love of her life and she continually spoke about a future together (house, marriage, kids), within a month of breaking up she was already involved with a guy she claimed she was “just friends” with.

So a recent break up just occurred and I’m somewhat reflecting on if certain behaviours exhibited (from my partner) were ‘right’. I would often question myself if I was misunderstanding something. So here are a few examples:

• Being set a ‘curfew’, I couldn’t be out with friends of either sex in a pub/bar/event/social setting past 21:00.
• Being told that I could not go somewhere if women were present (like the gym).
• Being let on that visiting family 1-2 times a week was not a good thing.
• Unable to attend birthdays or parties of friends.
• Family holidays (or of any kind) were a big no.
• Expected to reply to messages/ texts in certain timeframes.
• Couldn’t enjoy time alone for hobbies.
• Female coworkers seemed to be frowned upon.

I understand that people have their own views on what they find ‘acceptable’ in a relationship and this will vary depending on the individual. But to be told you “Can’t” or “Won’t” with no particular explanation as to why, other than “I don’t like/want it” I fail to get.