Never heard of a quiet farm myself and the woods are only still there because they're a protected hospital burying ground.

Real classy area and you can listen to the sounds of all the Dascomb road industrial traffic all day.

Lmao Lodge wanted so much money for 'the view' and kept negging for committment to 'our next home' or whatever for like $3,000/month. It's a lot cheaper to hang a picture of a lake on the wall and live in a complex with better people and decent maintenance.

Still looked better than Joan's Farm though, the whole place is designed and decorated like a coffin and you could hear the air moving around the next apartment through the walls. $2,400/month they were asking, new they said. One maintenance manager, if you wanted your mail or packages you had to go outside to the central building for mail and pick up packages during business hours. I guess they considered the smell of manure from their farm across the parking lot to be a big enough perk.

Was there renting for a few years, do not recommend. There is something in the water that makes the whole town weird.

Pros:

Good library, nice farmers market in the season.

Cons:

People say good access to whatever highways and train stations, but really they mean pick one and add 10+ minutes local driving to get to another. Pick a place and see how you'd have to drive to get somewhere far away? Along 495 is fine, maybe along 93, but if you want anywhere else you'll have to drive all the way through Tewksbury and Billerica to get to the west of Boston or drive 10 miles down 93. Pretty much every other suburb town has better access to anywhere. To go north locally, you have to drive through south Lowell, which can be a hard drive.

Just getting around town, it's all 38. If you live near 38, you will not sleep peacefully. At night it is a straight stretch of unused road, and road rallys were a frequent occurence. It's a major route so even if it's not a rally there's constantly semi trucks, ricers, pavement princesses, and generally bad sounding cars all hours of the day. Liable to get worse as traffic increases. If you don't live near 38, you'll have to get out of your neighborhood to get to 38, then get somewhere. There is no tram system and the bus system is primarily for 38. They've paved some sections recently but despite it being the biggest road in their town they still can't maintain it well. It will destroy your cars suspension system and you will hate coming home. There is not much in the way of biking to get places, you will most likely be killed.

If you want single family zoning or "dense" """"luxury"""" apartments, great. That's all Tewksbury has. Your rent goes up as much as possible every year and they don't care. Of the complexes I looked at, the cheapest one raised prices over $600/month over two years and never had any vacancy. Consider the people that you'll have living in that town. They're either wage slaves or isolated older lower middle class that tend to be very tribal and only come out of the woodwork to resist change. I met some nice people there but in terms of community it's harder to find. The long term residents had community before it got to be such a mess so they still feel it's available but what they know is not what you will get.

In terms of recreation, you go elsewhere. Every other town or city in the area has better nature to see and better activities to partake in. The restaurants are mid-tier at best. People say they're good but I tried most of them and wasn't very impressed. They're not bad, but not great.

In terms of looks, their town hall is ok, but anything outside of that is commercial hell scape. Nothing but road and roadside businesses. You quickly get the feeling that you're not supposed to be in the town unless you're spending money.

For politics, I can't say much because I'm not a statistician. What I did see was multiple days of massive Trump rallies at the intersection of Main and Livingston (or somewhere near 38 is repetitive) that made me scared to drive, and rolling convoys for Trump going through the town at 3-5mph. Incessant honking, people blocking roads and intimidating drivers, extremely unsafe conditions. No police action, and the rallies were most likely permitted. These are things I saw, not my personal politics. Regardless of my view Tewksbury allows dangerous conditions to develop depending on who's organizing.

And the kicker? They want Andover prices to live there. They offer next to no reason to pick them over any other city or town but expect some of the highest home prices in the county.

Tewksbury is a massive headache to get around and exist in, and a strip mall at its core. It's better to drive past it on the highway than drive down its roads, and better to drive through it than it is to live there. I've only been back a few times and absolutely do not miss it.

If you're looking for that area, consider Billerica first, then Wilmington. Farther north is Lowell. There's also North Reading, and farther away is Chelmsford, North Andover, and Haverhill.

If you really have to live there, the bright spots are Wilmington Transmission for car service, and Villa Roma's barbecue chicken pizza. Notable entries include Vic's Waffle House and the fresh orange juice, Donnas, and the $5 chicken burrito Mondays at Mexica.

I see 25 total in the 495 belt: Chelmsford, Dracut, Lowell, Tewksbury, Andover, North Andover, Methuen, Lawrence, Haverhill, Groveland, West Newbury, Merrimac, Amesbury. Set to max 500k, houses only. If you include condos there's a lot more.

If you can live farther north and can snag a house in Merrimac/West Newbury/Amesbury, you have easy access to all MA/NH beaches without paying crazy prices, and can be close to some development while still staying more rural. I also really like Haverhill, great food.

If you bought last year, a $350-400k house is $1400-1600/month for principal and interest. The Merrimack valley area has plenty houses like that, just need work. Taxes and insurance add $400/month.

With today's interest rates, closer to 2k before taxes and insurance.

The minimum price for a 2 bed 2 bath I've seen is $2000/month, closer to $2600 if your building got bought or you're in a nicer area and don't want a shit hole.

$500 less a month to live somewhere, about $500 a month retained in equity. More bedrooms, usable land you own, a permanent end to yearly housing insecurity and shitty landlords that salivate at your money.

The people I actually feel for are the ones that can only use 44/3/195/495 within 30 miles of the Cape. Most don't have great transit either, aren't on the cape, and not going to the cape. They have to deal with an extra 30+ minutes of traffic to live a middle/lower class life every summer while the cape continues to be composed of beaches, money, wasps, and political power.

Except Duxbury and Marshfield. Just enough money for they to get uppity about it and think they're better than everyone else and enough money to forget what normal is, respectively.

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If those bridges came down and the only access was by boat or train the cape could be like the vineyard lite while maintaining the same flow of people and everyone in the lower half of Plymouth county would be more than happy to forget about it.

Nothing on the internet is anonymous. I try my best myself but I also post as if anyone I know might know it was me, take that how you will.

It may be easier to identify you than you think, and it may surprise you what people can do when they feel backed into a corner. On the off chance it could happen to affect you, I'd recommend never openly premeditating a crime or civil infraction on a 3rd party service such as Reddit. You may not like the situation you're dealing with but you could be making it worse on yourself. It only takes one person and the right circumstances, best to mitigate that possibility.

Had a thought and wanted to pop back in for fun.

If your bf catches wind of this and can tie your identity to your Reddit account you're setting yourself up to lose in court if you don't follow the law exactly. Maybe consider alluding to evicting him illegaly in a medium that doesn't leave a paper trail. If they get a good lawyer someone's going to go hunting for your socials to find public admissions of guilt.

Act super soft and be called as much.

Sad yes, lonely no. It would seem I and the person I cohabitate with get along fine.

Good job complaining about how black the void is after choosing to stare into it long enough to get a response, random reddit person. I like your avant garde ampersand useage.

It's been a fun break from homework but you're too close to a troll for me to continue to feed you. In the future, try to find a boyfriend that will sign a leasing agreement that has a same-day eviction clause before you let him move in with you, and maybe try a prenup so they can never have any part of your assets.

It sounds like he's forcing you to be a landlord for you to have your way. I can understand that and the frustration that goes with it but in the eyes of the law you have to act as a landlord. As others have said an eviction notice stays on a record and most apartments won't rent to him once you evict him. It's not smart for him to do this in the long run but you have to follow the law or deal with the consequences.

Bemoaning the law meant to protect people and acting like he's always been a problem is bad form.

Hey there 10-ply, to quote myself from two minutes ago:

Not his fault you didn't ask for rent; you let him live there rent free, that was the agreement you both abided by until you decided it was a retroactive problem.

There is a clear separation between property/habitation and relationship status in the eyes of the law so unless they are putting you in danger by living there you're just looking for a way to make their life harder than you're already about to make it.

Serve him the papers and suck it up.

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In regards to 'if it was me', hope it never will be for your sake but I sincerely doubt that.

Gold star for following the law. Consider washing your laundry before airing it, not a pretty sight.

Are you their landlord or their soon-to-be-ex-partner? I've never heard about a good relationship where you were partners then when you moved in you considered yourself their landlord. Maybe you're into that I guess.

He's a squatter if he stays past an eviction deadline. He's a slandered tenant if you just sit there telling him to leave without following the legal process and complaining in a public forum.

lmao 'sad'. Reminds me of a certain cut-throat slum lord's son.

Imagine changing your whole living situation then having that long-term living arrangement you never got a signed document for ended by someone else based on how they're feeling.

He should've gotten a subletting agreement on paper and really shouldn't be a dick to the leaseholder but all we've seen is your side of things and he might have his reasons. If you let him move in there then by law he is a tenant, legal documents or not.

MA law prevents tenants from having their lives upended without notice. You're still evicting them and they still have to go through the sucky process of moving out but you're not allowed to just call the police and throw someone and their belongings off the property you allowed them into the second you're not feeling it anymore. Big whoop. If it was happening to you, you'd call yourself a victim of a landlord, not a freeloader. Not his fault you didn't ask for rent; you let him live there rent free, that was the agreement you both abided by until you decided it was a retroactive problem.

There is a clear separation between property/habitation and relationship status in the eyes of the law so unless they are putting you in danger by living there you're just looking for a way to make their life harder than you're already about to make it.

Serve him the papers and suck it up. Spend time elsewhere if you really can't deal with them leaving you alone and staying in a separate area of the apartment. At least you're not the one moving out.