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SoundProofHead t1_iwyptau wrote

Reply to comment by CrisiwSandwich in Psychologists demonstrate why feeling appreciated is particularly important for avoidantly attached individuals by chrisdh79

Very good points. Specific compliments are definitely better. And I think that's a fact for anyone, traumatized or not. But traumatized people are especially susceptible to doubt and overthinking, so special care should be taken to be specific and to tailor to one's soft spots. I don't think every vague or general compliment is necessarily insincere but I totally understand why you would have doubts.

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SoundProofHead t1_iwyp2y7 wrote

Reply to comment by SpasmociallySunny in Psychologists demonstrate why feeling appreciated is particularly important for avoidantly attached individuals by chrisdh79

There are definitely two sides to therapy. The one that deals with the client's specific personal issues, and then the therapist/client relationship that's being built during the sessions. That's why finding a good therapist isn't enough, you have to find a good therapist that you feel good with. It helps you relearn what a healthy and safe human relationship is like, regardless of what problematic you are there to talk about.

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