Thanks for the response.

The ADHD thing is definitely on the table, and definitely rings a bell. I've been communicating pretty clearly for a while now, the problem is mainly that she is actively applying for jobs, but avoiding customer service forward/food service jobs all together, because a history of working in those industries is a big contributor to her now prevalent anxiety. (Spending years of 40 hours a week with strangers yelling at you because they're latte isn't hot enough will do that to you).

>Is this a dealbreaker?

I'd be willing to go down with this ship, in whatever form that comes to (Over 10 years of warm love is a strong drug).

As I mentioned, she actively applies to jobs most days, but not the jobs that would be easily attainable (anything customer service/food industry related), because they're a big part of why she has so much anxiety now.