UWontAgreeWithMe t1_iwl460l wrote on November 16, 2022 at 1:13 PM

Reply to TIL Enya's music "Only Time" re-entered the Billboard Top 100 reaching number 43, thirteen years after the original release thanks to it being featured in Volvo's Epic Split commercial with Jean-Claude Van Damme by dont_mess_with_tx

Gotta admit, that was a pretty cool stunt by Volvo.

UWontAgreeWithMe t1_iuwax7r wrote on November 3, 2022 at 2:19 PM

Reply to comment by jrrfolkien in TIL that the most expensive film ever made (both adjusted and unadjusted for inflation) is Pirates Of The Caribbean: On Stranger Tides by jrrfolkien

Floating money pits

UWontAgreeWithMe t1_iuj0gkm wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:16 PM

Reply to comment by [deleted] in TIL that for weddings, it is customary for the groom not to see his bride in her dress until the day of, since seeing it before is considered "bad luck". This goes back to the days of arranged marriages, where both parties didn't even meet each other until the day of the wedding. by HagridsLeftShoe

18-25 year olds but yeah...

https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/5700sj/octhe_results_of_the_reddit_demographics_survey/

UWontAgreeWithMe t1_iu2awbk wrote on October 28, 2022 at 12:53 AM

Reply to TIL Chester Bennington, lead vocalist for Linkin Park and Stone Temple Pilots, hung himself in 2017 because of depression stemming from SA as a child 😔 by rpaul9578

He's only a few years older than me. I was heavily abused as a young child as well. Their music put a lot of words to feelings. In fact their music is basically him penning the symptoms of PTSD and the feelings of disassociation, grief, guilt, shame and things like that.

I'm almost 40. I'm struggling my ass of with the ramifications of sexual, mental and physical abuse. It's permeated everything. No aspect of my life is untouched by it. I have ruined my life and hurt or disappointed so many fuckin' people because of it. I've lost everything, I'm basically a hermit and trapped in a prison in my mind. I could feel that in their music and when he killed himself, it felt like watching the future. Like in the end, it doesn't even matter.

I wish like hell he didn't do it because yeah, I kinda looked to the music for support or a sense of not being alone but as time ticks on, I understand why he'd do it despite being on top of the world. Why all the money and fame wouldn't undo those feelings.

And I don't want that to be my future but it might be. You run out of treatment. You run out of medications to take that don't do anything. You can't be in therapy daily unless you're rich and have nothing but time. Depending on how young it happens it will hardwire you differently for relationships and other basic, fundamental human experiences. You never feel whole, you never feel clean, you always feel like a monster in your head and it's a fuckin' nightmare. And it's not easy or easier as a man dealing with it. It's hard to find support groups that allow men. It's hard to find support. It's hard to ask for help. I should be calling a goddamn crisis line right now but I can't see how my problems should be seen as equal to others who would need the help more like people who have a chance at steering away from this shitty place. Anything I ever did in this life, not matter what, isn't deserving of this living hell.

I was so fuckin' angry when he died because until then he was a pretty good advertisement for being able to level up to having a decent life and then it turned out not to be true. It was rough then, it's rough tonight.

Goddammit. No one deserves this. It's not fair. It's not right but it's a lot of people's reality. People are fighting hard to make it through each day because someone who is cold and callous, someone who can't even be bothered to remember or feel remorse did this to you because of many absolutely unexcusable reasons. It's one of the most heartbreaking and soul crushing things you can come to realize about this world.