I agree - certain parts of the country feel like a different planet when it comes to cost of living. And with OP’s debt, they’re in a tough spot.

I think we have different definitions about what good money is. Making more take home money than the average family’s gross is certainly good to me.

$2,800 per paycheck is roughly $100-110,000 (depending on deductions) before taxes. The average household income and family income in Oklahoma City is $48,500 and $62,500, respectively. How is he not making objectively good money for Oklahoma as a single earner?

I use a Zenhaven latex mattress from Saatva. Had it for five years and it’s held up great. It’s a little firm even on the softer side (it’s dual sided), but longevity is no concern at all so far. It’s VERY heavy though, and definitely not easy to move without help.