What does "being close" mean? Did she bring this up early on?

I don't want to discount the fact that his father allowed you to live for free for years, but the reality in this context is that you're absolutely in the right here, and if nothing changes, you're never moving out of his father's house if you stay together. He's content with things as is.

You want to start a family soon? How does that work financially? You want to buy a house? Who's going to give you both a mortgage? To back up, I'm sorry for being blunt here. I'm not trying to pile on. I logically understand that you know this which is why you're here. I'm just validating your concerns.

But let's put things into perspective here. You're paying off nursing school debt. Debt you took on to better yourself and potentially your future family. You made an investment which your career will make worth it in the long run. You're not in financial ruin (unless there's more you left out).

He makes an estimated $12K/year. Listen, there's integrity in every job, and if being a personal trainer is his passion and ultimately opening a gym is his dream, that's great. But dreams don't pay the bills. He's not even paying any bills right now, so where is his money going?

But if he can't even afford to live with his father, how's he going to open a gym? How's he going to buy a house? You're materialistic? You taking on debt for the purposes of getting a great career has ruined you both financially? Even if that's the truth, what's the answer? Just deal with it and continue living as is? This isn't a question of believing in him. What is he doing to achieve his goal?

Let's be real though despite my essay here. The guy's a bum and has no intention of doing anything. He constantly has nothing but excuses. When you're done, he'll have a new excuse. So take a step back and ask yourself if you want a healthy relationship, family, and home of your own? If you do, leave him immediately. Good luck.

Why would there be an assumption to be close? Separately, how old is he?

The biggest problem here is the lack of communication. If you want something real, you should have (and should) tell him exactly that. You said you started talking to the guy over social media, but what, are you just hoping for the best? That's not how relationships work. You need to use your words.

So now, he's told you exactly what he wants and what this is. That doesn't make him a bad person. He's being completely honest about what he wants. You said no to a movie and sex, but nothing else. It's like you're expecting that declining that will make him "wake up" and ask you out on a date and want a relationship.

You can only know where this is going if you ask. Stop guessing. Good luck.

What is the class overall grade based on? You said none of your assignments have gotten a grade lower than an A-. Does that include the projects you don't feel are "good enough?" Is attendance factored into the grade?

If it is, you need to stop cutting class. If it's not, you should still stop cutting class, but realize you're creating a problem where one doesn't exist. You're projecting your insecurities onto your projects. Why would you assume your professor inherently feels bad for you and would give you good grades? There's no need for you to be e-mailing him explaining yourself unless you literally need to.

So the advice is to talk to that counselor first and foremost. This is entirely about your self-esteem and insecurities. There's no need to meet with him. Good luck.

I wanted to try to rationalize everything, until the last sentence of the second paragraph. It's even possible nothing happened beyond drinking and hanging out with them considering how she worded that message. But it's still a problem that she lied to you.

So where you go from here is you talk to her. I'm the first person to come on here and say I don't condone snooping. But what's done is done. You did and you saw what you saw. The fact that you snooped doesn't make reality any less true. So you can either keep pressing the issue until she opens up, or you can just be honest that you saw the texts. As it stands, she's trickle truthing you.

She'll likely turn things around on you for snooping, but again, that doesn't change reality. So hold firm and talk this through. I don't want to sit here and just jump to the extreme and say she's cheating and you should leave her. I don't know if she's cheating (and right now I honestly assume she isn't), and I don't want to jump to ending things because if no cheating occurred, if she just comes clean, this is something you should be able to work through, and then of course you have a child together.

I would, however, suggest you don't rush to get married until this is all sorted out. Because if ultimately you decide you can't trust her, then at that point you shouldn't be in the relationship, let alone consider making it legal. Good luck.

There's so much here. Before I continue, how long have you been together, and do you live together? How old are you?