In this case I’m not arguing against the idea that people judge themselves differently in comparison to others, yeah it’s likely true in general

But I’m saying that judging based on action is just as biased as intention, while a different basis for judgment is just as biased

Why is action more biased than intention? Perspective of the causation or result of an action can be viewed differently. Some may say the action was helpful but others may entirely disagree, the same action provides for different reactions and views, isn’t it just as biased as the evaluation of intentions?

While you’re entirely right that our own perception of our intentions may be conceited or overlooked.

At the same time, other’s perception of our intentions aren’t necessarily unbiased and likely have their own prejudices and intentions.

It’s good to be open to other’s perspectives and the possibility of intentions being misinterpreted or misguided, failing to understand the inherent prejudices of others around you and viewing opinions as objective over subjective may further misguide your intent..

It’s not unbiased either tho, they likely have their own prejudices and are likely have similar views to their friend as close friends often have similar beliefs and perspectives.

Also they may try compromise in sharing their views harshly to spare their friendship.

We’d like to believe we analyse it even if it is rather one sided. It’s not like anyone else is a better judge of anyone else’s intent since we all view it in our own ways..

To be fair…. We don’t know their intentions (or whether they’re genuine), and usually they have a justification or a certain mindset of how the things they do are justified but it doesn’t apply the same way in the perspective of others..

Judging anyone other than ourselves based on intention isn’t always accurate since we won’t quite understand what others think and whether or not it’s genuine.