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asldkjgljkaeiovne t1_jas0u83 wrote

Let's just pretend this isn't a revolutionary change to the nation's leading sport while we also pretend revolutionary changes are typically fully adopted by everyone without question. Your "argument" is willfully ignorant of human behavior in general, you know damn well the risk associated with youth football resulting in traumatic brain injury is, fortunately, statistically zero, but sure, let's all pretend that fact isn't real. You also know your attempt to associate "pro lifers" with parents who might oppose such a rule is a pure red herring, a logical fallacy, and rather juvenile in my opinion. For the record, I support limiting tackle football by age and I'm pro-choice, but that shouldn't matter because arguments made that are ignorant of objective and factual premises don't concern bias, something you appear to have an issue with.

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asldkjgljkaeiovne t1_ja9ane2 wrote

I've lived all over the world and I noticed as my values in life changed so did my desired in living location. When my wife and I decided to start trying to have kids we realized our home was plenty large enough, five bedrooms, but we had outgrown what DC had to offer, and wanted a large fenced yard for dogs and kids to run and play in just outside our house, garage, swimming pool, large patio, deck, neighbors far enough away that we could blast music or play movies on the side of our house with a projector, camp out in the backyard, let the kids ride bikes through the neighborhood without fear of constant stop sign blowers, plant a huge vegetable garden and a reading grotto with a goldfish pond, etc. This was our new dream and we sold our house and purchased a house just a little over the border in MD to make it happen. Your comment makes me believe you would find our life boring, I might've thought the same thing when I was young, but it's more full now than it ever was and I make it even more full by volunteering three days a week at outpatient substance abuse centers as a former addict counselor/life helper-outer, two days per week as a hockey coach, rest of the week as a husband taking his wife out for date night. Sure, our house isn't stuck two two other homes like our old house, we don't have much going on outside our windows that isn't feathered or furred, I haven't even seen a cop car or firetruck once in my neighborhood in the seven years we've lived here other than during Halloween and on their annual drive through the neighborhood blaring holiday music with Santa on top tossing candy to kids, and we now have to drive or bike five minutes to get groceries, but other shopping is actually closer, schools are better, and I can honestly say there hasn't been a single\ instance where I thought I missed something about living in DC, but that's me and my value system, and not everyone is the same, thankfully. If boring is being able to walk outside your house onto your pool patio to enjoy the sun and water then lie in a hammock in your own backyard while reading a book, no noise except some birds and squirrels and with only your own wife and kids to bother you, I'll take boring.

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asldkjgljkaeiovne t1_ja92p8i wrote

What does that even mean here? Person posted a story about a stabbing in a DC McDonald's and your take is that OP is vitamin D deficient? In my experience with this phrase, the ratio of appropriate/applicable use vs misapplied or incredibly reaching and assumptive use is about 1 to 50, so at least you're not unique!

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asldkjgljkaeiovne t1_j50mi9f wrote

I've lived all over the US, if you're looking for abandoned, rusting vehicles your best bet is to head to the country. I've happened upon many a long forgotten "junk yard" with 10+ cars in back yards, sometimes 50+. Pretty much every house that's not a planned community with an HOA you'll find has a few of rusting cars that haven't started in decades not too far from the house.

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asldkjgljkaeiovne t1_isztxel wrote

I'm a moderate Dem and I have only ever voted that way since 1992, but I find it irrational to label Republicans as fascist, or semi-fascist, and ignorant, willfully or otherwise. I've tried understanding this argument but the premises are always so easily invalidated if we look at the whole of the facts. I'll name one example, the Roe decision, which by the way RBG would've agreed with the majority as she's stated numerous times she believed the Fourth didn't support. The Justices didn't say abortion should be illegal, they only decided the case law was faulty. Even I knew this was true back in the 80s when I was a kid marching against the "Moral Majority." But this is never even discussed amongst Dems, they refuse to be objective and look at the case law and instead promote a narrative that abortion was banned by the decision (it wasn't, it went back to the states and we need to bring a better case than privacy clause), and we also refuse to answer at what point life is created and therefor, abortion is akin to murder. I'm annoyed to no end by this omission of all of the facts in favor of the easy, low hanging fruit of crying "fascist" at those who abide by valid logic based on factual premises, and all of the premises, not just the ones that suit our desired ideological outcomes. But I digress, not looking for a political discussion here and won't be back to discuss because I have to get my kids to where they need to go. Have a great day.

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asldkjgljkaeiovne t1_iszrslv wrote

I'm assuming that was sarcasm, but currently in DC the direct social service programs for cases like this:

Alternatives to the Court Experience (ACE) Diversion Program*

Parent and Adolescent Support Services Intensive Case Management (PASS ICM)

Strengthening Teens Enriching Parents (STEP) Program*

Teen Parent Assessment Program (TPAP)

Youth Homeless Services

Functional Family Therapy (FFT) Team

PASS Crisis and Stabilization Team (PCAST)

The effectiveness and results produced by these programs aren't often discussed or even reported on.

The community and state are only two parts of the equation involved in kids being lawless and violent, their upbringing by their caregiver is an even larger piece to this puzzle than all other externalities combined, and yet I rarely ever hear of anyone discussing the huge role their households have as the direct influences on their lives. Anyone who has ever worked as a teacher or police officer knows what sort of home environment most lawless kids were raised in, and I spent twelve years as a LEO an my wife's been a teacher for twenty-six years, and almost without fail the kids I'd picked up and had constant contact with came from homes that were negative influences in almost if not every way possible. The kids who had more stable and supportive homes typically were being raised by older relatives, but it was unfortunately too late for their stable and responsible parenting to overcome what they'd already learned since birth. Kids had failed to be taught common decency, respect for themselves and others, and what it means to have values consistent with a functional society. Kids who are powerless at younger stages will attain power as they get older in ways that are violent and/or criminal. We see it most often in young boys who gain power through gangs/numbers/association, then the ante is upped with even more power with having guns, then robbing, then killing. Girls used to exhibit this phenomenon at much lesser rates, but lately this has changed and I see girls acting out in violent and lawless ways to gain power more and more frequently. I see in that list there are programs that would lead one to believe they would help, for instance, the FFT program in particular seems promising for future generations, but like I stated, I've never heard is spoken of or heard of anyone reporting stats on these programs except the ACE program, which last time I checked has glaringly poor results and nearly 100% recidivism, and in many cases there were unfortunate innocent people harmed in the wake, but sure do we like to report that 1% who succeed as if it's not also a reminder of the lack of efficacy of the output of such a program.

If we look at the family history of these kids we'll quickly note that they are the product of multiple failed generations, so it's going to take a lot of work, money, but nothing will work unless we're willing to be brutally honest and unafraid to objectively look at all areas of the lives of these kids instead of ignoring the issues that many appear to deem untouchable, most typically I suspect due to it oftentimes being known as career suicide for a politician. I volunteer in substance abuse recovery centers and of the tens of thousands of cases of individuals I've worked with I don't believe a single person was successful at staying clean and attaining any real sobriety if they didn't also change their home situation, because learned behavior and habits are too hard to overcome when times get tough no matter how much you know it's not good for anyone. Along those lines, the successes I've witnessed with violent kids almost always involved placement outside of their current situation, foster homes, relatives in different towns/cities where at least their home life was stable and positive.

I apologize for the long wall of text, just wanted to relate my experiences an assessment on what we're currently seeing.

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