If you don’t have trust you have nothing. Why are you so jealous and insecure? Men and women can just be friends. I’m sure you find people attractive too, a wedding rings don’t make people blind. Has your husband given you reasons to doubt his fidelity? Your husband seems determined to go. I guess the balls on your court if you want to make this a deal breaker or wait and see until he returns.

“Moving somewhere more serious” and “not there yet” equals Nothing. Sorry op. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. You’re not officially a couple. You hook up sometimes. That’s all. There is no loyalty expected. Yes, you say you are exclusively having sex, that’s smart, but in no way is that the same thing as your Friend owning you txting monogamy. Maybe your friend even wants to explore the old partner for a romantic relationship or for sex. At that point, you can expect your friend to come talk to you and break it off or get more exclusive. Right now you have zero to get upset over as that level or commitment and monogamy was never established.

I don’t fully understand. How will the world tell you? Why don’t you know? How is this motivating?