That's good, I'm glad to hear that cus if all you say is 'i pressured her for sex she didn't want for a year and then she left me and said she doesn't want to see me for months but i need her' it's gonna shine an ugly light on you by leaving out a lot of important context.

But more importantly DONT start that conversation when she comes to drop off her things, it could make her feel trapped and pressured because she's on your home turf.

Maybe things are different than described but at this time it sounds like she needs time to think and it might feel like an ambush if she hasn't had enough time yet. Just take the stuff, be respectful, and wish her a nice day. Let her go.

If she brings it up, cool, have the talk. But if not then just let her leave without putting that on her, and let her get in touch via phone at a later date. If what you said about her wanting to fight for the relationship is true, she will initiate that conversation when she's ready. For now, your fight is to give her space to grow while you do the same. Godspeed my dude. Wishing you both the best.

Maybe in the past you agreed to fight for your relationship, but has she said she still wants to do that now?

Here's my advice.

My friend, you need to listen to the others or you're just going to make it even worse. Read your own post again.

Realize what you wrote isn't about your love for her, it's about how YOU miss all the ways she makes YOU feel better.

Take note of how you even begged her to stay friends so YOU can hug her when YOU have a bad day.

Really think about how your entire relationship as described here was about the sexual services you expected her to provide to YOU.

Everything youve said makes her sound like an object or service you just enjoy having around for emotional support rather than a living breathing person with her own feelings. You don't even mention how she felt about everything. Did you ever ask her how she felt?

I know it's difficult and you're emotional about it all but pack it up and think long and hard about this because this should be a serious wake up call for you. Honestly it sounds like she escaped a pretty shitty situation by getting out.

Listen when your ex says she doesn't want to be with you anymore. Hear the reasons why and, since you are so important to yourself, change for yourself or you're probably going to lose a lot more than a girlfriend over the years.

This is written a little more bluntly than I normally would because you said you're asking for real advice but seem to have a hard time accepting it. So here it is, rough and ready, to the point.

Good luck with the therapy. Remember it can take a while to find the perfect fit, so take your time and don't let it discourage you if the first therapist doesn't feel right. You deserve to learn, grow, and be better. Sending positive vibes.

What's with the artefacting?

I especially love that OP took it upon themself to explain in such a condescending manner. It really made me want to absorb their opinion as my own. I, and the way I view and interact with the world I live in, am forever changed.

next time swaddle the baby in a blanket! a park is a better place for a kitten than a parking lot at least. you tried your best, feel better op

permanent nerve damage is how i found out cat scratch fever is real. i still love cats