enduring_student

enduring_student t1_ixfbm0x wrote

Reply to [Text] I’m stuck at home in a dreadful job. How do I get motivated to live my life every day? by clmtt

For me it's sometimes a matter of finding out what disrupts me from Doing The Thing.

I have exercise goals too, but right now I have a pretty random schedule which means working out at random times, which in and of itself isn't bad! But I'll get wrapped up in a task and forget to workout. For me a good trick is to set a timer to snap me out of my task so I get up and go exercise. I'm still working on remembering to set the timer but hey, baby steps are still progress.

So my advice is to think about the things that stop you from Doing The Thing, in this case exercising and going out more. Even if they seem stupid or that you should just be able to ignore them, pay them their due if they derail things, it's often the small things that end up being the most difficult so don't be shy in admitting something like 'I hate the color of my gym socks, I got them because they where on sale but now I hate them.' Wear fuzzy socks with adorable baby lamas on them if that's what works!

The point is to figure out what does work for you, and does not work for you, and lean into what works.

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enduring_student t1_ixf80jc wrote

Reply to [Image] be your own bestie by x00xmoon

It is still important to put in the effort to build and maintain healthy relationships with other. And it's just as important to put in the effort to build and maintain a healthy relationship with yourself.

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enduring_student t1_iw0surs wrote

Reply to [Image] "To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson by Butterflies_Books

I know exactly what this is like. I've been though a lot in my life, and some of it was really ugly. One night I was hanging out with a friend who told me that his life was better for having me in it. All in a rush, everything I'd been through was worth it, Worth It. My life has been much better since that moment.

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enduring_student t1_ivszvfz wrote

Reply to [Discussion] Which are good self-help books that inspire and motivate? by Change_petition

I'm a big fan of self help from a place of knowledge and understanding, so I recommend educational books.

One I learned a lot from is 'The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog' by Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph. D. and Maia Szalavits. Great insights into how brains our minds develop with different types and amounts of stress.

Also, probably the best financial advice is how to save money, and few books have more tools for that than 'The Tightwad Gazette' by Amy Dacyczyn.

Both do have a US focus, just FYI, but the basic concepts are applicable to nearly everyone.

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enduring_student t1_ivdy2lu wrote

Reply to [Image] You matter. You are enough. by motivationswag

I find that the more I know I belong in the world the less off I feel, and vice-versa. Working on as many little ways as I can find to be a better, healthier person helps so so much with living, and little things like this help with that.

Thank you.

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enduring_student t1_iv4egvi wrote

Reply to [Discussion] How do I become more motivated? by Idk_lonely_mr_ok

An important thing to keep in mind is to do what works for you without hurting others.

Seriously, it's so simple that it's easy to overlook. There are so many systems, methods, techniques available to try. Not all of them will work for you in a given time or situation, so just have them in your toolbox and pull out what you need. It helps to take notes on what worked and what didn't and why. The important thing is to lean into what works.

Also a note about motivation: 1) It is a good fuel that comes in lots of different styles, and 2) Will rarely get you all the way to any goal. You need lots of different fuels to burn in your engine of achievement: discipline, rewards, reminders, friends and family, habits, kicking yourself just enough to get up and try again (but not enough to feel like an awful person), taking a break, schedules, etc. These are all more tools in your toolbox, more ways to find what works for you.

Edited for grammar.

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enduring_student t1_iv4cctb wrote

Reply to [Image] by Scandroid99

I've had to put something down that I really wanted to achieve so I could focus on something else I need for a while. After I get this second thing mostly done, I can focus more on the first one, so I'm really glad to have practical, succinct, honest help like this to help me make solid progress. Thank you.

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