People are allowed to have personal preferences! I don’t want to have sex on my period. Why am I allowed to make that choice, but a man HAS to have sex with a woman on her period if he wants to or not? Consent works both ways. He doesn’t have to do anything.

OMG, I’m a woman, and your man turning down a shower with you is NOT oppressing you! He is allowed to say yes or no as he wished. That’s called consent. He doesn’t have to do whatever she wants. He didn’t tell her she was disgusting, he just said Nah, and she came out sulking and looking for a fight. And let’s be real here - sometimes when we’re on our periods we like to pick fights. We feel irrationally irritated AF about things that might normally only be a mild irritation. You cannot remove a person’s right to choose just because their female partner is on her period!

Exactly the point I was trying to make. Why did he have to? He said he was drunk and lying down, so likely couldn’t be bothered. If he’d had a few too many cocktails, it a fair assumption that she had also been drinking, and that affected how they both felt and reacted. But it really is a mountain out of a molehill.

If it had been a woman who refused to join her bf in the shower, only to get him visibly sulking afterwards, with the argument that she made him feel bad for being a man - well, everyone would be telling her to leave / divorce him, and there’d be red flags everywhere.

Consent goes both ways people! Nobody should be forced to do something they don’t want to just to please their partner, and their partner shouldn’t sulk and accuse like that afterwards. People must be so hung up on the notion that this was period shaming that they’ve forgotten about consent. They’ve lost sight of the bigger picture. She was using ‘period shaming’ to shame him for not doing what she wanted, and using it as her excuse for acting all offended.

I think she overreacted. He doesn’t have to join her in the shower if he doesn’t want to - period or no period. Personally it’s not my thing, I want peace and space to wash myself! I don’t think think this is truly period shaming, as he’s allowed to decline an invite to join her in the shower if he doesn’t want to, just like she is allowed to decline the same invite if he made it. I kinda feel she is feeling hormonal and making a bigger deal out of this than she needs to be, but my god, don’t say that to her if you have any sense whatsoever!!

For clarity, I’m an older woman who’s had my fair share of periods!