horriblyefficient OP t1_jdary4s wrote on March 23, 2023 at 1:24 AM

Reply to comment by ApiContraption in PsBattle: this picture of the San Jose Sharks mascot by horriblyefficient

here is the original tweet, in which they encourage you to do silly things with the picture https://twitter.com/sjsharkie/status/1638295426322530304

horriblyefficient t1_j1yfoks wrote on December 28, 2022 at 9:03 AM

Reply to I'm currently in college, and am struggling with whether to live in the dorms or in an apartment. Parents made a very generous offer and I don't know which one to pick. by Brilliant-Bed2876

is your relationship with your parents very good/stable? I would take the upfront option (paid rent) over the three years later option (car) even if the car is worth more, because I'd be concerned the car offer might disappear by the time I got to that point, if your relationship with your parents breaks down or they get into financial trouble.

the other thing to consider is what quality of life impact living in the apartment would have - are you and your friends party people? are the dorms particularly shit? basically, what is living in the apartment worth. also, how does it impact your food and transport costs?

are you working at all? how long would it take you to save up $25k and if you did, would you spend it all on a car?

horriblyefficient t1_iu7bnk3 wrote on October 29, 2022 at 2:37 AM

Reply to comment by SuperS0l in Can a 19 year old in college drop down to community college, run away from home, and survive by Zorra_FoX

this is a sub for personal finance, not familial relationship management.

op hasn't responded to any comments, my answering with my best guess hasn't stopped them from answering you.

horriblyefficient t1_iu3y48g wrote on October 28, 2022 at 11:33 AM

Reply to comment by SuperS0l in Can a 19 year old in college drop down to community college, run away from home, and survive by Zorra_FoX

I'm not sure this is really relevant to their question.

but, controlling parents can do very illogical things. I don't see why we should doubt this OP more than any of the other young people who come here asking how to get away from abusive parents.

horriblyefficient t1_iu3nvhh wrote on October 28, 2022 at 9:27 AM

Reply to Can a 19 year old in college drop down to community college, run away from home, and survive by Zorra_FoX

are you going to classes on campus at least? is there a student services office? there might be resources from the college to help students at risk of homelessness, which you almost sound like you are.

you say you don't enjoy computer science, but you still want to work in IT. are you sure you still want to go down that path? if you are, you might actually be better off talking to the university about emergency housing on campus and financial support or loans for students who are disconnected from their parents.

as for the money, get a bank account at a bank your parents don't use. if your $13k is in an account your parents know about, keep an eye on it but don't move it until you leave, so you don't tip them off that you're leaving. it doesn't sound like they would take it well.

horriblyefficient t1_iu3idx2 wrote on October 28, 2022 at 8:06 AM

Reply to comment by SuperS0l in Can a 19 year old in college drop down to community college, run away from home, and survive by Zorra_FoX

sounds like their parents are aggressively demanding adherence to a specific gender presentation.