But then you still walk around with all that trauma. So you’re like the neurotic turd by the time your 30

Doing something difficult (but not too difficult) is instilling in us a sense of accomplishment and confidence in our ability to do thing. I find with sooo many distractions we stop doing the things we really want to do, deep down. And that makes us feel like we actually can’t do things. At least that’s my experience. Also with social media you’re bombarded with people doing amazing and achieving stuff.

It’s kinda like this study I watched on the effects of porn on confidence. If you watch other men with other women long enough, it does something to our primitive brains. That monkey part of the brain that was pushed aside by a bigger stronger male for mating purposes. I’m being silly but there’s truth in that.

I would recommend that too, Sometimes that’s a hard first step, also sometimes it’s not an option. Good luck.

I’d say if you don’t like yourself, you have reasons for not liking yourself, and I think in my personal opinion it’s useless to hear to “like yourself”. If you don’t like yourself you will know you’re faking it, which will make it worse. Kind of like faking a smile. A lot of pseudo psychologist used to think that helped you feel happier but if you know you’re faking it it actually makes it worse. We’re too smart to trick ourselves like that.

My opinion is if you don’t like yourself try to do some stuff that’s difficult, but not too difficult. Possibly something physical(jog, lift weights, play basketball, join a gym, do yoga). Also, If the area you spend most of your time is messy, that doesn’t help with how you feel about yourself.

Start focusing on how the people you love feel, instead of you. Slowly you’ll start to feel better and hopefully that leads to a positive loop for you.

Another thing to mention is doing all those things will also make your life better in a lot of ways. So even if it feels selfless it’s actually selfish, cause you get back way more than you give.

Occasionally you get burned but you can’t have expectations from others, just yourself.

Edit: don’t give up on liking yourself.

I find the people that don’t like themselves are the best people, cause they are aware that something is fucked up.