I definitely have told myself what you said... I'm not going to be able to change him, no one else could and I certainly can't. And I know he won't do it for me. He does sometimes take three or four days off from drinking. He thinks that is enough to give his liver a break and he thinks the fact that he can take a few days off means he is not an alcoholic. The days he takes off are great days. Most days I have spent with him he doesn't even remember large parts of our conversations. I am supposed to meet his parents in March. It's super important to him. I feel terrible to break it off before that. His friends and family have all been so happy that he has found someone. He is so sweet to me. But I'm very unhappy now. Lonely and feeling rejected. And feeling sorry for him.

That certainly simplifies it to a good question doesn't it? He has a lot of good traits that I used to see a lot before I moved closer. And the cliche but true reason... love. But love won't keep me from ending it if I have to