>!Most people hold biases like this, but aren't consciously aware of them.

I'm not one of these people. And just because I suggested getting tested you shouldn't assume I am one.

>!This is always good advice- but, having seen many posts exactly like this before, but not involving another man, I will say this: it's telling that far more people jump to STI's in this case.

My NUMBER ONE ADVICE is to go get tested when cheating is the issue.

>!But homosexual and bisexual men AREN'T inherently any more promiscuous than their straight counterparts.

when did i mention those things on my comment??? Please point it out.

>!The fact that everyone immediately jumps to STI's with a bisexual cheater, while they wouldn't with a straight cheater, does say something about internalized bias: even if STI testing is always a good idea regardless.

Also when did i mention those things on my comment??? Please point it out.

Cheating is cheating and it doesn't matter who one got cheated on with, a man or a woman. Whoever got cheated on SHOULD GET TESTED.

I'm curious about how he ended up cutting ties with an entire group of friends.

None of these was something you could have avoided. It would have happened anyway. Not because of you, but because cheaters are cheaters.

Go get tested!!!!

OP, it definitely happened before with someone else.

My first thought would be don't stay with a cheater. That's obviously your decision to make based on your life arrangements.

One thing you need for sure is to get tested. Being cheated on always brings the risk of STDs.

There's no competition, you can't compete being the person you got cheated on with a man or woman. It's not something you didn't do or something that was lacking on your relationship. It's the commitment you partner doesn't have and it's the lack of care he has for you. Someone who loves you, won't hurt you.

None of these is your fault.

I've never had the courage to watch it. I want to, but I don't think I'll be able to as I'm dealing with stress, anxiety, and depression. Your post made me realize it's probably a movie to watch when I feel healthier.