Thank you so much for your suggestion, I'll definitely try this when I can.

I think it might be that he doesn't see I'm suffering at all, and simply sees it as my job? I'm not sure anymore. :(

He doesn’t do the housework if I’m too sick. It stacks up until it gets mouldy and ants get into it. That’s why I have to still clean with goopy eyes. He doesn’t come with me to appointments or feed me or anything like that. If he does have burnout though it’s probably from work.

His mother is kind of awful. I really don’t want to get too into it but she’s very self focused on what upsets her. My own family lives too far away to help. Thanks for your comment though. 👍

Thank you so much for your suggestion. I'll try to plan something when I'm less infectious and we can enjoy it more. I really appreciate you offering your own personal experience as well. :)

This is what I'm most worried about. I'm worried I'm going to have to do something drastic like threaten divorce before he'll change and take me seriously. I just don't know why it's come to this.

I just felt like he was empathetic before covid and everything. And sometimes I can see that empathy. Just not recently. Thank you for your comment.

thank you so so much for your help. I just really appreciate being heard right now. Thank you again.

I think the worst part of this situation is that it doesn't feel like he takes my illnesses seriously. My eyes are bloodshot red and covered in crusty goop, but in response to me asking him to unpack the dishwasher, he simply said "wash your hands first and then you can unpack it yourself." It's the lack of empathy that worries and hurts me.