respectfulpanda

respectfulpanda t1_j6cxkmp wrote

Reply to Twins, 1987 by Alatarial

And they decided to have kids? I mean, I applaud their breaking of social stigma, but man, their parents must be pissed.

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respectfulpanda t1_j1tocva wrote

You're in a relationship with her. If she wants her family to be part of her life, and by extension yours, you will need to bury that part of you that judges them and spend time them.

It's okay to talk to her about how the family makes you feel, but if you're drawing a line in the sand that says you're not willing to try to support her, I wouldn't count on being in that relationship long-term, and that might be the best for both of you.

"I love your family!"

"Yes, but I hate yours and because I don't want to put the needs of my partner before myself, in an area that really I should be able to, don't expect anything from me."

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