I hear you. You’re probably right. Not knowing what keeping the distance meant, I said “if,” but I potentially drew a conclusion

If he had a strong reaction to your rejection, you may have dodged a bullet. Otherwise, you appear to have recognized a self sabotaging behavior. You’ll have opportunities to be better in the future

American here, I am glad that the EU is acting without us. My perception, right or wrong, is that America is often “damned if we do” and “damned if we don’t.” The world looks to us for leadership and works together with American leadership rather than alone. America should act more on climate change, but in our absence, I’m glad the EU is starting the job.