Thanks for the explanation.

Sometimes you can (and should) stand firm with your aims and expectation, and change the surrounding instead. At least I won’t give in easily like how OP pushes the expectations away from what he/she originally want

POV: You are Sisyphus

jokes aside, sometimes a perspective change instead is needed, rather than shifting either of the reality and expectations

This may be true, the key is that “how is it even possible?” usually can’t be answered. Life is too short to try out all the paths to make everything possible. The essence is to make practical/sensible aims so you can reach it within your lifetime, or the timeframe you desire.