whatcanitellyaboy OP t1_jeh12c4 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 11:25 PM

Reply to comment by SugarGlitterkiss in (Serious) What are some good responses to someone you haven’t seen in 45 yrs who thinks you are the same person you were at 16? by whatcanitellyaboy

Currently dealing with. I’ve been polite, firm but kind and I’m not getting anywhere. It’s as if this person stood still in time the last 40+ years and won’t see things any other way. With me at least. Very frustrating

SugarGlitterkiss t1_jeh3xy6 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 11:47 PM

It's not like you have to convince them of anything, or even really discuss it if you don't want to. Stick to the general, "We're not teenagers anymore", "Obviously I've changed since I was a kid", "Time moves on", or even just, "LOL, no." Then change the subject.

PolarBear374665 t1_jeh27aw wrote on March 31, 2023 at 11:33 PM

It really somewhat depends on the dynamics of the relationship (then and now). But, generically, if they are trying to get you to engage in behaviors you not longer find interesting or acceptable, something along the lines of “I’ve changed a lot since you last knew me and no longer do (fill in the blank)”.

whatcanitellyaboy OP t1_jeh513b wrote on March 31, 2023 at 11:55 PM

Not engaging in behaviors, more along the lines of she knows me. Knows my type, etc. wanting to label me a certain way that’s not who I am at all. Not even close. And no, they’re not particularly good or nice labels.